Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Please help! Take new job or stay

4 replies

Curlew182 · 06/05/2025 21:14

Please help me before i make the wrong decision.

Current job, been here 5 years. Lots of freedom, autonomy, an amazing new manager who is a pleasure to work for and i genuinely want to push myself to achieve even more under his leadership. Have built up a great relationship with a big customer base, and genuinely see many of them as proper friends as well as acquaintances/customers through work. Some brilliant staff in depot, and am also part of a brill team of my counterparts at other depots, regular meetings between us and our managers which genuinely feels like a jolly some days as such a laugh (whilst still getting the job done, iyswim). My issue is with a couple of individuals in depot, some days good, others an absolutely vile atmosphere, very unprofessional, lazy, attitude etc that has been fed to previous management from customers and staff alike over the years but never been dealt with so has continued. New manager aware of issues but cannot wave a magic wand but assures he will deal when gets tangible proof. I do 100% believe he has the intention to do this. I am oftentimes left anxious, on edge, paranoid, even been in tears of frustration on an evening and honestly dread going in some/ most mornings. Husband fed up of my feedback some days and wants to go in and confront but i am v unconfrontational and know it will impact terribly on the support and work i need from the team.

Friend works for large global company, a rare opportunity came up for an opening nearby and she essentially sold me to the team leader, day after that i get offered an interview, by 9am the following day i am offered the role. Totally different industry, a very professional and corporate atmosphere, 100% office based whereas i currently am field based. Pay is a few thousand better, much more scope for progression, sick pay, more holidays, private healthcare. Im admittedly not excited for the role, just looking solely at the benefits .

I think my question is..... do i drop my current job as it can leave me an anxious wreck some days, doesnt seem to be getting better any time soon, but i have a brilliant boss, have loads of freedom, any issues with childcare etc he is very flexible and operates solely on trust, has a great 'laddish'/un-corporate atmosphere that i fit really well in.....

Or, do i say goodbye to the relationships ive built, the freedom and travel i enjoy, and go to a very corporate and stuffy office based role (have been pre warned that the managers are.... difficult) that offers slightly more pay, but admittedly some decent benefits, and potential to progress should i succeed ? (I am also scared my friend will never forgive me if i turn them down after she's worked so hard to get me 'in' - this industry is notoriously difficult).

Sorry for the ramble, i just know whichever option i pick i will regret, so hoping some strangers can chuck some wisdom at me x

YABU - give it one last chance and stick with current job

YANBU - leave and take the new job

Thank you!

OP posts:
BBCONEANDTWO · 06/05/2025 21:45

Stay where you are it sounds like a good place.

WorthyOtter · 06/05/2025 21:47

Go for it. A change might be good, and would current job let you come back if it didn't work out maybe?

suzym1984 · 06/05/2025 21:50

Go for it! There is a reason you were looking and went for the interview

Curlew182 · 06/05/2025 22:52

Thanks for your responses so far!
Husband tonight, he is still 100% saying i should leave and try the new job, he has had to mop up my upset and put up with me stressing farrrrr too many times.
Ive just spent the evening drinking red and doom scrolling thru indeed and glassdoor reading people's reviews of both companies 😭

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page