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AIBU?

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To continue exercising, despite being pregnant and my husband not wanting me to?

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mummytoonetryingfortwo · 06/05/2025 18:20

I found out ten days ago that I was nine weeks pregnant with twins. I’m 27, everything is totally healthy with the pregnancy and with me.

My husband and I struggled to conceive for three years before finding out about these babies. Before I got pregnant, I was very active. I had actively put on a bit of weight, as I was veering towards underweight and thought this may have been contributing to the difficulties conceiving. I’m one of those people where if I’m not careful, weight will drop off me easily.

I’ve had a phone call with a private GP who has confirmed that, as I was very active before my pregnancy, I’m okay to continue with my normal routine until such time as it becomes too difficult. I run most days, I tend to run as part of my commute (about six miles a day). It is my safe space, my time to turn off. I have a very stressful job in the city and without my running, I think I would go insane. I also tend to do Pilates or weight training 3-4 times a week, at home after work when our daughter is asleep.

My husband’s concern is that I’ll start to lose weight again now that I’m pregnant, or that the exercise will lead to a miscarriage. I had a scare just after I found out, where I bled for a couple of days. I think I should be fine, and I’m hoping to work with a PT to taper my workouts down when I am heavily pregnant. Fitness is something that I turned to when our daughter was young, and it’s kept me sane. I’m open to working with a nutritionist to ensure I’m eating right, but he thinks I should just stop.

AIBU to want to keep working out?

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mummytoonetryingfortwo · 07/05/2025 16:41

Paintsplatters · 07/05/2025 16:39

Congratulations on your pregnancy. But I don’t really understand what you AIBU is? When people are giving you opinions on cutting down or moderating your running you are very definite in your plan to continue, so why are you asking?

For what it is worth (nothing apparently) I think you should continue the Pilates and weights, cut the running in terms of distance and pace and take up something more gentle like swimming in the meantime.

If something were to happen in this pregnancy would you ever forgive yourself, or would your husband be able to get passed it if it were thought that your lifestyle was a contributing factor?

I have said in my posts I am open to working with a pregnancy PT, and will be cutting down on my running?

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