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To think “d”p doesn’t care ?

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TheThreeMiracles · 06/05/2025 13:57

im 34 weeks pregnant and baby was quiet this morning ( but has moved loads since I messaged partner ) I messaged partner and said I needed to be taken over to be monitored hospital is 40 mins away I have no car until Thursday as my brakes need doing and it’s not safe to drive! Hence why I’m asking him for a lift ( just for context ) he’s just had a right moan at me and said ill have to wait and he’ll take me at 5.30 when his work is done for the day ! AIBU to think he’s not really that bothered and doesn’t care ?
just for context our 2nd baby had reduced movements days before he was born and I asked him to stay home with our eldest child whilst I went to hospital and he stormed out to football and told me I was being selfish and doing it out of spite to make him miss football ! He didn’t miss his football I took my dd to hospital with me left at 7.30 and didn’t get home till midnight on a school night - was sent for a scan and got admitted straight away as I had too much fluid and baby was transverse! He’s not taken any thing from that experience ! AIBU to just say he clearly doesn’t care ?

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TheThreeMiracles · 07/05/2025 16:46

Sorry I’ve not responded to this post had a really stressful day! Yes I do have my mum for support which she is absolutely wonderful!

I’ve got my c section booked but I was keeping the date quiet because I didn’t want my daughter to have the lead up to it feeling anxious and worrying ( when i had my son she was really nervous about me being in hospital etc ) not only that I wanted to have the surprise of letting everyone know that our baby has arrived, I also didn’t want the hassle that some people can give! I’ve had my daughter announced on Facebook before I had chance to tell anyone and I know his mum will be phoning all morning asking for updates ( completely get people are excited but I wanted this to be my special time )
He has basically told my dd the baby will be her in x amount of days ! She’s worked out the date and told her friends and her teachers soon dd will have told others and that’s not what I wanted, I had a family member be really nasty When I had my son because I didn’t inform them that I was in labour ! He doesn’t think it’s a big deal but I am so upset he’s done this !!

dd doesn’t deal with the idea of me staying in hospital and now she’ll be worrying about that too !

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TheThreeMiracles · 07/05/2025 16:47

And now I look like an idiot because I’ve told people I don’t have a date as of yet !! To save feelings ! Xx

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