Wtf was this

[Enigmauk]

hI first off i apologise for any spelling or word mistake as I suffer epilepsy and has gotten worse over the last month, so I have an 16 month old that is always hyper and just getting her to sleep is a tag team.
so partner try’s settling in arms the gives her to me as he has to wee
I have a focal awareness seizure and still powers thro as it’s like almost 3am
she then wants him 5 min later and i pass her to him .. he then says “well your not gonna settle her in a shitty voice and me being me get hurt by that but also angry! If she wants cuddles from her dad then I pass her over ? Why wouldn’t I anyway I needed to vent as my brain confuses me

You are not being unreasonable but neither is he. Two of you getting no sleep is never a good situation. You are both tired and snappy.

I suggest one of you takes your little one off into another room, shuts both doors, puts out the light and co-sleeps with her, while the other gets a good night's sleep. Then tomorrow, you swap.

At 16 months, she has to learn that daddy/mummy is asleep and we need to be quiet.

I do this I have my daughter at nights he has his own room maybe it’s just me , being silly and sensitive

my daughter never sleeps ,, this is her going to sleep for the night now

Back in December just gone she was poorly and had all her back teeth come at once which spun our world , we then went from sleeping at night to being awake all night like it was day time .. this lasted 8 weeks !!! We tried everything,, we finally got Back to normality and every now and then these late nights pop up,, she never sits still and it’s a beautiful handful of hyperness..
she is amazing and just doesn’t stop not even to read a story to she is walking and doing

I’m diagnosed with generalised epilepsy I have grand mal too also suffer Todd’s paralysis and in the last month had seizures every day the focal awareness and had 2 grand mals with a SE … headaches getting worse and longer last night it lasted all night and up till this afternoon:(( it’s hard

I also have epilepsy and definitely don’t think
co-sleeping as in, bed sharing, is a good idea. If things are getting worse I hope you have a check-up soon:) The dr or health visitor might be able to offer advice, as sleeplessness won’t help at all.

This stage is really hard, especially if you’re both exhausted. Hang in there x

I don’t sleep in same bed a my toddler she has a cot x

At 16 months it’s time your daughter learnt nighttime’s are for sleeping. Unless of course she is unwell.

I can almost hear your tiredness coming thru your post.

If she were mine - 6.30 bath, story, cuddle 7pm bed time. Leave the room. If she wails go back in sit where she can see you - no talking or eye contact - refrain from engaging with her or lifting her out of her cot. If she can climb out then put her back to bed each time, no talking. She will settle…it might well be a mission or battle of wills for awhile. If she wakes at night, only one of you go into her, if she needs changing do that, again no talking or games, no stimulation for her, put her back into her bed, if she won’t settle - again sit where she can see you. Keep the lighting very low. She will settle, but only if you do this consistently, that’s the key. Good luck.

Thank you so much for your advice I’m going to try this and update xx

Sorry alot has happened but thank you xxxx I feel so lost and alone