DP sending adult videos when I’ve told him it creeps me out

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DP told me recently he thinks we should try and ‘spice things up’ and try some different things. Fine - I said I’m open to suggestions.

Over the last week, he has been sending me links to videos and been like ‘let’s give this a go’. I don’t watch porn and would rather he didn’t - I told him this. Yesterday, I had my parents round and he was at the gym. My phone had a notification from him and - you guessed it - he’d sent me yet another video knowing I was with my parents.

I confronted him when they left and he apologised but I think I’ve got the ick…AIBU

If you’ve told him clearly that you don’t like it then yes, he is being unreasonable to send unsolicited explicit videos and images.

He sounds disgusting.

He doesn't care about you and your feelings. But that's hardly surprising from someone who watches porn - apart from all the other reasons to hate porn it reduces sex to a mechanical act devoid of any human emotions such as love, affection, or caring.

I wouldn't want to be in a relationship with someone who saw me merely as a means to tranform his porn preferences into real life.

I'd block him if he does it again, partner or not.

A million percent this. If you've got the ick I'd end it now because I doubt you'll ever get rid

I wonder how long it's going to be before he suggests 'bringing someone else in' to spice things up? He sounds like he might be a boundary pusher.

Oooh no. He’s wandered off into a daft realm. That’s not love anymore. That’s hormonal solipsism.

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They've just split up because of a similar situation.

He is wrong.
I have been married decades, and I don't watch porn, as far as I know neither does my husband, and my worst nightmare would be to watch it together.

Even if you were not particularly against it, you have told him not to send you links, and that should be enough.
He is a dick...NPI.)

Nailed it.

Your DH has turned you into the means to his "end". Nothing more than the bang for his buck. No wonder you have the ick he's an arse.

I will tell an adult something once. 'Don't do this - I don't like it'.

If the behaviour is repeated then they are gone. Particularly over something like porn. You told him you did not like him sending you videos.

He did it again. Dump.

Ignore the insincere apology.

Why do you think you might be unreasonable?
Tell the boyfriend you're not longer attracted to him, then enjoy life free of some wanking idiot of a man. Tell him to look up the legality of sending explicit content to someone who has specifically withdrawn consent.

Never heard of them - what happened.

That’s disgusting.

Theres “spicing things up” then there’s expecting you to behave like a porn star.

id go as far to report him to the gym. Watching porn in the gym is fucking rank - this is one of the reasons o go to a female only gym

Excellent post!!

@JandamiHash Ew, I didn't even pay attention to that part- the boyfriend letching at porn in public. What an embarrassment of a man.

That's way to much he would be gone

Time to see a lawyer. And check ALL his devices and take screenshots so when he tries to be a cunt about the divorce you can just threaten to tell everyone he knows what a pervy weirdo he is