To assume its him

[Myitchyarse]

New partner. He's mostly been an absolute top partner and im mad about him.

3 months into relationship i developed threadworm.... Not the usual sti but hey.... Asked him if he was itchy, he said no but had treated himself 4 mnths before as had been. We both have older teenagers no small children close.

We treated them and all prospective household members. Asked partner to he super careful with hygiene but hes a nail biter and defo thinks taking a tablet adequate measures.

Treated twice. Twice. Finally thought gone.

3 mnths on they are back. Ive nothing noticeable in stools but i am so sensitive and swear i can feel when there is even 1 of the little fuckers in my rectum. I am literally at my wits end. It makes me feel so stressed even though i know they are mostly harmless and part of life.

There's no towel sharing etc. Im a vigilant hand washer to the point of sore hands. I can only assume its being passed during sex. I am so paranoid, wash hands before i put anything in my mouth.

Where are they coming from 🤦‍♀️
Aibu and a horrble cow assuming its from his original problem. 😭

I think for them to transfer during sex you'd have to be performing anilingus. If you are then definitely stop. Don't let him use his fingers on you either.

Threadworms isn't an STI. You've said "not your typical STI" but it's not an sti at all. If it's only you getting them I'd suggest the problem is you never being completely clear.

He is to blame considering he had them previously.

Your efforts to stop them are wasted if he isn’t being as thorough as you are. He is nail biting and then touching everything around your home.

I think I would bleach every touch point in the house and question my relationship as threadworms are my idea of hell.

Get rid of him. Problem solved.

horrible things to have. if he is a nail biter best to stop but at least get a nail brush scrub under his nails well with lots of soap.
you are not likely to get them during sex but I know what you mean, once you have them you get almost paranoid about them bit like headlice

They are definitely transferable sexually. Not rimming but definitely enthusiastic oral sex will pass them as will fingering.
Getting rid of him is not an option. I love him. No one to blame. I just want to work out most likely source to help get rid.

He has poor hygiene and bites his nails - gross!

Why are you scraping the barrel with the likes of him?

I expect he has more unsavoury habits that you are yet to discover or may never discover! 🤮

No relationship is worth getting worms for.

You know the "most likely source" - it's him.

Three months in you're still in the honeymoon stage, which is causing you to overlook the fact he's got unpleasant habits. This will probably change to revulsion in time.

Yuk, that would definitely put me off having sex with him ever again 😩

I agree with this.

Poor personal hygiene even in random strangers is really off putting.

The idea of performing intimate sexual acts with someone who isn't scrupulous about their own cleanliness is just disgusting

If you are indulging in "enthusiastic oral sex" with this guy goodness knows what you will end up catching.

they can be super difficult to get rid of

but if after twice they’re not going away I would go to the dr. We had it from school a lot and we had something else to treat it. Worked a treat. But it just kept going round and round in the classrooms. So if you’ve got children in school I would imagine that’s where it’s coming from.

A friend a few years ago (worked in SEN provision) had been constantly ill, run down etc and went to a specialist who discovered she had parasites. Took a long time to get rid but she felt like she had a new lease of life.

The point is that they can be extremely persistent- and I also think some people/families are more susceptible than others, my nieces and nephews have all had such visitors while my dc never have. Similar with head lice. no point being precious about it but to rid yourselves completely might take more than your partner has done so far. If he isn’t willing to take the appropriate steps, there’s not much else you can do but break things off or put up with repeated infections.

Can't imagine oral with someone with a wormy bum. He obviously doesn't care enough about hygiene to get them twice in a few months. He's probably had them the whole time. If he got rid of them the first time he must be pretty gross to get them again so soon, if there are no small children about.

Sounds as though OP you know the answer to your Q and know exactly where they’re coming as you then go onto say are ybu blaming your new partner. As some others have said, after repeated infestations it’s time to go to the GP and get your partner a little more involved in exactly what his hygiene looks like as it’s obviously not working.