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PARKING WAR - from Day 1 of moving into new house!

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BreezyBertha · 04/05/2025 03:12

Diagram attached!

So, moved into new house on Thursday. Our house is one of two houses at the bottom of a cul de sac. We own half the access road to our drive, house next to us owns the other half. Turning into our drive is tight as we have to go round a bend and need to pull out onto neighbours side and also reverse onto it as there are concrete bollards bordering it.

Neighbouring house has been empty for a while I believe and and sold last month so will be empty for a few more probably. Our house was empty for a while before we moved in.

Neighbours who live in the house at the end of the road just before our private road starts. have obviously taken to parking on our access road as both houses have been empty. They have two cars but one car drive. There is very little parking on the public road in front of their house and they have concrete bollards cordoning off their front garden so can’t pull into there. There is parking further up a few minutes walk away.

Anyhow, DH drove the removal van up on Thursday to find their car parked on our private road, blocking him from getting onto it. He asked them to move and politely asked them not to park there. They moved the car after a bit of ‘um we’ve been parking here for a while now, houses were empty so it’s ok’.

Well they’re not empty now! I mean WTF??

The wife then came out while we were unpacking and seemed friendly so we introduced ourselves etc. She then said she parks in our bit of road from 9pm when she finishes work so it’s ok! Also that she has family nearby who come to visit and they need to park. We said they can’t block our road so please don’t park there

Later in the same evening, they parked there again and I couldn’t get out, so DH knocked and said you need to move your car. Husband was not happy but moved it off our bit of road further back opposite his house where the public road starts. It is very tight but we can just about squeeze through.

Today they had the family they mentioned over. One car parked in empty neighbouring house’s drive, another on the private access road. DH couldn’t get into the drive so sat beeping his horn.

About 5 or 6 men came out, one the neighbours father and the others his brothers/BILs, telling us we have room and they don’t need to move! They were also saying they don’t live here so it’s fine to park on our road if visiting! Things got a bit shouty as we said they had no right to park there and should not be on the private access road at all. In the end they conceded that they needed to move from the access road but left the car in the empty neighbours drive! I did say what are you going to do when buyers move in!

They seem to think that as they’ve been parking there for a while, it is now their parking area!

They only moved in in February so have not been here long themselves and just took advantage of the fact ours and neighbouring house were empty.

I just can’t get over the entitlement. They have no business even coming off the public road and over the dropped kerb into our access road. It’s trespass!

Obviously I don’t want an expensive legal battle. Can’t put bollards up as new neighbours would need to agree and they have not moved in yet.

I can tell this is going to carry on though so what can we do? We actually bought this house for the big 3 car drive and had no idea we’d have issues with neighbours who shouldn’t even be entering our bit of road. Getting really stressed about it as just want to live in peace!

Title deed attached with my diagram added. . Our house is bordered in red, empty neighbouring house in blue and CFs house in green.

PARKING WAR - from Day 1 of moving into new house!
OP posts:
Lollyluv · 16/06/2025 18:09

Call the cops. They are trespassing. They keep doing it have them arrested for trespassing. Idk what the law is there but in the US trespassing is illegal.

Shade17 · 17/06/2025 10:20

Lollyluv · 16/06/2025 18:09

Call the cops. They are trespassing. They keep doing it have them arrested for trespassing. Idk what the law is there but in the US trespassing is illegal.

That’s not a thing in the UK.

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 17/06/2025 16:58

Lollyluv · 16/06/2025 18:09

Call the cops. They are trespassing. They keep doing it have them arrested for trespassing. Idk what the law is there but in the US trespassing is illegal.

Here trespass is not a criminal offence - it’s a civil matter, so the cops wouldn’t do a thing. OP would have to take out a civil prosecution.

Helen483 · 17/06/2025 21:42

Lovelysausagedogscrumpy · 17/06/2025 16:58

Here trespass is not a criminal offence - it’s a civil matter, so the cops wouldn’t do a thing. OP would have to take out a civil prosecution.

Edited

Trespass isn't that's true. But blocking someone's access to their drive probably is something that the police would act on.

WiddlinDiddlin · 18/06/2025 03:40

Only blocking someone from getting off their property - blocking someone from getting in wouldn't interest them. And even then, it's unlikely to result in speedy action.

Hippee · 18/06/2025 07:00

FlyMeSomewhere · 05/05/2025 18:31

That's not legally enforceable in residential areas, only car parks can do things like that.

Perhaps the laws have changed, but my friend owns a private road and local school parents used to park on it. She put up signs advertising a parking charge and it was enforceable.

FlyMeSomewhere · 18/06/2025 07:11

Hippee · 18/06/2025 07:00

Perhaps the laws have changed, but my friend owns a private road and local school parents used to park on it. She put up signs advertising a parking charge and it was enforceable.

How is enforceable though? What parking company or local authority is managing that private road to administer fines? You can't just knock on a door and fine someone without something legal being in place because they don't have to pay it unless there is.

LilWoosmum82 · 18/06/2025 07:13

Once the new neighbours move in as the road is private access. What about an electric gate? Cutting off access completely to these other neighbours?

GAJLY · 18/06/2025 07:14

Could you put a bollard at the end of the drive to stop them coming onto it?

Allthingsbrightandbeautifulx · 18/06/2025 07:14

TroysMammy · 07/05/2025 07:18

Could you contact your local fire station with your concerns? They might come out and have some words of advice for your neighbour.

This, our local fire department came out last year and put leaflets on cars that were parked on the road (very narrow roads) telling them to use their driveway if it’s empty and not to park opposite another car as they couldn’t get through or on the bend.
New family moved in a few months back with 2 teenage/young adult children - 4 vehicles, 1 is the man’s work van so takes up even more space. 2 cars on the driveway and the other car is outside their neighbours house with the van behind it on the bend to the side and rear of neighbours house. Their neighbour spoke to them and told them can’t park on the bend, that they’re restricting visibility and fully blocking the pathway. Ignored her, she nearly got knocked over as she couldn’t see around the bend and the path wasn’t clear so had to walk around his van onto the road.
She spoke with the fire brigade and they came out and did the leaflet distribution again and knocked and spoke to this family. The van now blocks their own drive and they have a game of one in one out, move them all about several times in the evening 🙈

Hippee · 18/06/2025 07:31

FlyMeSomewhere · 18/06/2025 07:11

How is enforceable though? What parking company or local authority is managing that private road to administer fines? You can't just knock on a door and fine someone without something legal being in place because they don't have to pay it unless there is.

I'll ask her. I know she did manage it. And it sorted the problem.

Strictlymad · 18/06/2025 07:46

My gast never ceases to be flabbered at some people

Ydkiml · 18/06/2025 07:52

How is the situation now you’ve been in and settled ?

BloominNora · 18/06/2025 08:37

We had a neighbour in our old house who constantly blocked our drive because the previous owner hadn't minded.

It stopped after DH had to go to work at 4:30am one day and had to go and get the neighbour up to move his van! 😉

Nominative · 18/06/2025 08:40

When the owner of the other house moves in, it could be worth talking to them about getting retractable bollards installed, or an electronic gate that you can open with a remote gizmo from your car.

CiaoMeow · 18/06/2025 08:44

Theuniversalshere1 · 04/05/2025 06:48

This....!

This. It's the only way with such entitled, apparently dense cheeky f*ers.

CiaoMeow · 18/06/2025 08:45

Sorry, meaning collapsible bollard or some other physical barrier.

DBD1975 · 18/06/2025 08:47

Poonu · 04/05/2025 06:26

But the cheapest car you can, tax it and leave it where they park thus leaving them unable to.

Good advice.

OnlyLittleOldMe · 18/06/2025 10:13

Looking at your diagram the empty house (bkue) is going to have even more issues than you if the green people continue to park like that. You both might need to look at legal ways of stopping them. It might be cheaper together.

Catwalking · 18/06/2025 10:41

Access for an Ambulance should also be considered alongside Fire engines.

Russiandollsaresofullofthemselves · 18/06/2025 11:57

costly for you but I would get collapsing bollards/barrier/ chain installed now and give your neighbours keys when they move in. it’s a pain to have to get out you car just to get on your drive way but i doubt they will stop with a physical measure.

Fraggeek · 18/06/2025 12:06

Should it happen again, gently explain that your child has a medical condition and that this is the main reason for your concern. I would also consider putting a sign up that says "No public parking. Disabled access"

Make it very clear what exactly they are risking buying blocking you in

FlyMeSomewhere · 18/06/2025 12:52

I can do relate to this! I live at the bottom of a cul de sac where people are often reluctant to use their own drives, we also get the cars that park opposite each other! Recently I struggled to get my hatchback through and I thought to myself then that if god forbid there's a fire at our end, are the fire brigade expected to knock on doors and get people to move cars first!!

Whattodo1610 · 18/06/2025 14:17

Fraggeek · 18/06/2025 12:06

Should it happen again, gently explain that your child has a medical condition and that this is the main reason for your concern. I would also consider putting a sign up that says "No public parking. Disabled access"

Make it very clear what exactly they are risking buying blocking you in

I’m not sure why OP should ‘gently’ explain anything 😵‍💫😵‍💫

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