Noisy neighbours are pushing me to my limits

[Lucie390]

I appreciate the title sounds like I’m about the flip.. looking for some advice. I absolutely won’t be marching round there tonight but I might politely knock on their door tomorrow if feeling brave.

We moved into a new property last summer, neighbours have a garden office/bar and have been having friends over every weekend since we moved in- without fail. It’s not caused us any issue other than annoyed that sometimes cars park nearly across our driveway and we can see it lit up in garden but not caused us any stress per say or sleepless nights until now..

Every single weekend they have friends over and we can hear them until 2am, i can’t have the window open which annoys me but even with the window closed we can hear them until 2am. I am a light sleeper anyway so appreciate I might be being sensitive but even when I get up at 3am to go to the toilet their garden office is lit up till 4am most weekends.

This week has really pushed me too far as the wife of the house in question, has had her friends over and quite literally shrieked laughing and swearing until 1am on Tuesday, then Wedesnday her teenage daughter had friends over til 1am being loud in the garden and then Thursday the wife/mum has people over till 2am again which was followed by a huge bust up and the husband and wife falling out and shouting/screaming in the garden till 3am. They then left the garden room lit up and music going till 5am. I now having family staying and I can hear a garden party again and it’s literally making my blood boil. We sat out until 8am then the music started and we’ve had to come in.

My children are teens so it’s not keeping any young children awake but we have small children in the house next to us and very elderly people the other side. I’m so cross at how inconsiderate they are. What would you do ?

My husband is so placid and would rather pit earplugs in and go to sleep but I can’t do that as easily. Plus I have my parents here I feel embarrassed as the sheer volume, especially as I know with bank holiday it’ll be the same tomorrow.. what do I do ??

Why do you feel you can't speak to them directly and let them know how their behaviour is affecting you?

I'd be tempted to call the police whenever I hear loud shrieking

Shrieking is not a police matter @Bestfadeplans on a weekend evening (and indeed any time) the police are busy with serious crimes not wasting time. it's a civil matter.

OP You need to speak to your neighbours yourself and explain the noise issue. If it doesn't change contact the local authority. Or if they're the violent type just go straight to the Council.

Haha, mine have their 3yo stay over with a relative on the weekend often because our TV is up against the party wall and it is on LOUD from 6am on Saturdays and Sundays. We had to rearrange our whole downstairs layout because of their loud get togethers at weekends since last year. The couple go out or have visitors and expect long lies at the weekend and also want their 3yo to lie in til at least 9.30am. Not happening if I can help it....TV will be up as loud as possible. They can reap what they sew.

Moral of the story - don't pi&# off your neighbours.

On the other hand though, they are enjoying themselves till their hearts contentvwhile you are suffering. People like those bank on getting away with it.

Some neighbours just are not approachable?

Now you know why the owners of your house wanted to move.

We had the same when our neighbours built a bar/shed in their garden. They had parties every weekend, even during lockdown

We contacted police, who came out but never really put a stop to the problem

Contacted the council, they were worse than useless

At the time the man worked nights, then he got a job working till very late at night so consequently slept till late in the day
SO, I took to playing loud music from 7.30am most of the morning as I did my housework and he had the cheek to complain

But thankfully he got the message

“shrieked laughing and swearing until 1am on Tuesday, then Wedesnday her teenage daughter had friends over til 1am being loud in the garden and then Thursday the wife/mum has people over till 2am again”

OP, you’re far more long suffering than I am! One weeknight when my neighbours got a bit carried away, at 11.30, I went into the garden and said, “Guys ! It’s a weeknight - could you please keep the noise down?” And they all went in. They often have parties at the weekend, but that’s OK - live and let live - but on school/work nights, I don’t think it’s at all unreasonable to expect quiet after eleven.

I was about to ask this!!

Have they got planning/building regs for this office/bar?

Blast Beethoven at 6 am every time they behave like arshols!🎻🎺🪉🎷

Did it stop?