Weekends with people you never see

[newmumabouttown]

DH and I have a 13 month old. He wants to do two weekends away over the next month to stay with different families who I have only met once and twice before, and he only sees every few years or so too.
AIBU to really not want to go. I feel a miserable loner for wanting to avoid, but it’s like a military operation with bad nights sleep staying away with the 13 month old. We travel lots - but usually for a holiday or with close family….this feels an effort but it feels like not going would mean writing these people off completely.

Can he go without you?

Will he properly share the effort of dealing with your child during the night? Or will it end up being all you? How does it work when you're with family?

Could you maybe just do a day then come back that evening?

Are they close enough to visit for the day? Or can DH go by himself?

If you already travel loads together I’d let him go and visit friends alone. It’s a lot of effort for people you’re not that bothered about.

I also don’t think you need to worry about losing friendships if you don’t go - it’s normal to see distant friends less when you have young kids.

It's a good age to get kids used to the normality of going away. It will ultimately help in all sorts of ways

I'd go if it means a lot to him and you travel lots.