21 times a month????

[TiramisuQueenoftheFairies]

To just ignore the link that my husband has sent me to this article?
https://www.healthline.com/health/prostate-cancer/ejaculation-prostate-cancer#research
For context we are over 50 and have grownup children. I'd say we manage about a third of that.... so 7 times a month..... Is there really a world in which couples with jobs, hobbies and unavoidable chores manage 21 times a month, 12 months a year, apart from in the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship?

That report was written by a man.

in answer to your question: no.

It doesn't mean you have to be involved each time. Send him off the the bathroom with some tissues! 😂

He has a hand and is presumably quite capable of using it

Article isnt talking about La Sex 21 x a month though, is it? It's talking about ejaculation. Do I believe that a man (of any age) could masturbate 21 x a month?

Absolutely.

I would say normal. That's presuming masturbation and not just intercourse.

Oh sweet summer child.

I noted that increased sex drive was a risk factor but increased ejaculation was protective (after a certain age). Not sure how they can separate those two 🤔

Buy him an 80s jazz mag and a box of Kleenex as a helpful gift 💫

Why has he sent you the article? Just to let you know… 🤔 Or to pressure you to have sex with him more often?

My husband (of 20 years) and I are currently having sex pretty much daily. We both work full time, have hobbies and social lives. No kids though.

It really only needs to take 10 minutes if that's all you've got time for. I find, the more we do it, the more we realise how easy it is to fit it in.

I will say though, this is as a result of my crazy high sex drive now I'm over 40. We weren't always like this!

That's personal and relevant to you only. No one should be suggesting to OP that she needs to have sex every day. You've got no idea of her lifestyle.

The OP asked:

"Is there really a world in which couples with jobs, hobbies and unavoidable chores manage 21 times a month, 12 months a year, apart from in the "honeymoon" stage of a relationship?"

My answer is "Yes, there is".

Aw, it's thoughtful of him to sending you a hint for what to get him for his next bday present
He's clearly fancying a butt plug given he's so interested in prostates and ejaculation.
Make sure it's a big one! Possibly throw in some anal beads as well if you're feeling generous!

For context we are over 50 and have grownup children. I'd say we manage about a third of that.... so 7 times a month.

If the grown up children both of yours and you didn't just meet five years ago then I'd say you deserve a medal. I mean even once a month impresses me.

Eh? Surely he can wank?

I am thinking the latter..... and trying to work out how to tactfully suggest he doesn't need me 21 times a month.

Why tactfully? He hasn’t extended you that courtesy has he?

as a slight aside, do you see sex with your husband as a chore?

"Looks like your hand is going to be getting a good workout then! Make sure you clean up after yourself" is about the only response I'd be sending.

Suggests he builds up to 21 gradually and switches to the other hand occasionally to avoid RSI 😂

OP in answer to your question of course there are people who do. And people who don’t. 32 years in and 3 dc. We are intimate on average 4x a week. So not quite the 21 x a month but he entertains himself during the month so I’m sure he hits that number

Sounds about right to me.

Tactfully because I always come out worse off if I'm confrontational about anything...... No, not a chore, but something that takes at least half an hour if not longer...... we go for quality not frequency.... which is apparenty unfortunate for his prostate health!

Well, it’s his health and so he could look after his health in his own hands.

if I remember correctly you’re already extending his life by staying married to him. He can go the extra mile on his own, I’m sure.

I thought it was common knowledge that men have increased testicular cancer risk if you don't ejaculate to some sort of frequency. He of course could just top up his frequency with some self care of course though.