My husband and I have recently separated. A few years before we separated, he admitted signing up to a website purely for people wanting to have an affair, meeting a woman on there and sleeping with her. He only told me as he thought I might find out anyway, it wasn't an attack of conscience on his part.
At the time our daughters were very young (one a baby) and as soon as he told me, I thought I can't cope on my own with 3 tiny children, so I pushed it out of my mind and carried on. Obviously I regret that now but I didn't have the headspace for dealing with it properly at the time.
I did a good job of not thinking about it or mentioning it. For a few years in the run up to separation, my husband worked away a lot, and probably only spent half the working week at home. He clearly checked out of the marriage some time ago but insists he was only unfaithful on this one occasion. How many of you think that's likely, and how many think pull the other one? I know no one can say, but I still don't think he's being honest with me. He has a new girlfriend and I think he's playing down the extent of his infidelity to appear more decent to her, and he doesn't want to tell me a different story. After a 20 year relationship it's just another kick in the teeth. I know I won't get a sensible answer from him, but am I unreasonable to think anyone who cheats in that sort of planned way is very unlikely to have not done so on other occasions?