Noisy neighbours

[pwderblueparade]

Sorry another noisy neighbour one!
We are in a terraced house so we share a wall and garden boundary with 2 sets of neighbors. On one side, we don’t hear them at all. On the other side, young kids (one is below 5) and we get loads of noise - running around, screaming, shouting etc. Prob is mainly the garden - they have their back doors open all day, kids in and out all day (which I know is lovely for them) but we can hear everything they all say (including the adults). It’s every evening for a 2-3 hours till kids go to bed and all day at the weekends. Have asked them to keep the noise down a bit (eg not shouting the length of the garden) but they have started blanking us and seem to be making a point and being even louder. We can’t hear each other to have a conversation in the garden, and even with our doors shut we hear them all day. It’s like being in their family. I’m trying to juggle my work so we do the gardening when they aren’t home during the day, but at weekends the noise levels are really difficult to cope with. Any ideas please? We'd like to talk to them again but I sense it won’t be well received. Thanks.

No ideas but they can't exactly keep the noise down with their kids, not in their own home. Although it affects you that's terraced houses unfortunately. We're the same, walls are so thin we can hear every conversation next door with kids running around, but we live with it

I get that the kids can’t be quiet (but could be taught to be?) but the adults are actively shouting. I’ve observed them having much quieter conversations, so it is possible.

Make noise when they are quiet. Play them at their own game.
I'm doing this with my current neighbours 🙂

You are now a huge fan of Slipknot. You should play their music at your leisure. With your doors open.

But seriously, I can never understand why people arnt considerate of neighbours with noise. I don't understand why they think everyone has to put up with shrieking kids either, and why kids can't be taught to be considerate... Surely that's what a parent should be doing, teaching kids stuff like that. Only exception are ND or kids with disabilities who sincerely may not be able to control it. Otherwise, kids should be taught to keep their noise level at "joyful playing". They don't need to bloody shriek and holler.

But yeah, enjoy Slipknot.

Thanks! I totally agree. Our previous neighbors had delightful kids who played without screaming and never bothered anyone!
I am also tempted to start joining in their conversations 😂

Its not normal around here, just chatting, and the odd party

YANBU op. My neighbours set up their sex pond in the garden this afternoon 🤣 add to that lots of screaming children and drum and base music at full volume . They have all now retreated indoors and it sounds like the house is being smashed up . We get this every weekend currently. Not helped by the fact that these houses don’t have great soundproofing.

I sympathise - we’ve had screaming all day, even when they knew we were trying to enjoy a meal outside the parents and kids full on shouting and screaming. Might buy a leaf blower 🤣

We also have problems with a neighbours barking dog - their entitlement and ignorance is quite amazing, and sadly have confirmed the misogyny and arrogance of the police (they are coppers).

I have no solution, but we went to view a house today 😁

I'm normally a very quiet neighbour. Ours got obnoxious and wouldn't curb it, so I decided I'd enjoy my garden by drowning them out with music. They're back to normal levels of noise now that they realise it makes their own life easier.

@pwderblueparade 😂😂 yes a leaf blower sounds like a plan . I’m also thinking about playing some really loud music on Sunday morning when they are still in bed. Unfortunately some people just don’t care . I may have to look at moving as it’s really awful and really starting to get me down as it ruins the weekend. You get home from work on a Friday and you are on edge waiting for the noise to start 😟

You have my sympathies, though I'm afraid I have no helpful advice. We are in a similar situation - we live in a terrace next to a family with four children under 10, who are in the (modestly sized) garden more or less continuously after school and on the weekends. They fight, cry and scream all the time - which means we don't use our garden unless we are using sound blocking headphones. The Mum is apologetic and tries to get the kids to be quieter but one of the children is autistic and the household seems very stressed. I am sympathetic to her - I think her life is very tough and her husband seems unhelpful - but at the same time I am pretty frustrated that we can't enjoy our own garden. We haven't voiced our frustration as I can't see what it would achieve (doing that here instead!) and I can't see a solution for us, unless we find ourselves in a position where we can move. My main consolation is that the kids won't be small forever - at some point they will retreat into their bedrooms and be teenagers, surely?