Can we address ‘harassment’?

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Recently, a thread has started and some individuals have called one comment and no further action ‘sexual harassment’.

I am going through a harassment case currently where I have been harassed for the last 8 months. The police (in both my county in the UK and the county of the perpetrator) have repeatedly reaffirmed to me that harassment has to involve 3 incidents of unwanted contact to be termed ‘harassment’.

I have had 8 months of incessant calls, new SIM cards to call from multiple new numbers, fake social media accounts being created to contact me after being blocked etc, threats to turn up at my home/ work etc.

One comment, sexual or otherwise, does not constitute harassment according to police in the UK. Do we need to wise up to what we are saying to each other?

Multiple women murdered on the back of escalating harassment and stalking. Police do nothing, even though they have all been reported, and these women are murdered and still nothing changes.

Well that’s true, I’ve found that myself from this case. It was only stepped up once he began threatening to turn up in person as that moved it from harassment to stalking.

But what I mean is, we need to be careful with these words. Someone saying one comment you don’t like isn’t harassment.

Well ACAS say sexual harassment can be a one off incident.

And if this is about the former teacher, then the op is getting enough of a kicking on the threads themselves, I'm not sure a separate thread needs to be started to give her even more of a kicking

Yes of course it can be a one off incident and it’s the point I was making above. These incidents may seem small to people but studies show they escalate if not addressed.

It's disgusting.
I was harassed and stalked by an ex.
Police did absolutely nothing.
He had history of DA towards to me.
He found me one night while l was out with friends.
Threw me under a moving bus and left me for dead.
I'm severely disabled. ( coma for 8months... )
He's still in prison for attempted murder.
This was 30 plus years ago.( Before mobile phones etc).

Moier, that was a moving post you shared.sorry you suffered at the hands of such a dangerous man and didn't get the protection you deserved from the police.

I believe that the perpetrator has to know that the contact is unwanted too ie you have told them to stop.
I think harassment in the workplace is different though because breaching company policy is a separate issue.

Calling one comment 'harassment' is an insult and minimising the experience of actual harassment victims.

According to ACAS “Sexual harassment can be a one-off incident or an ongoing pattern of behaviour.”

@Moieri am so sorry. What an absolutely disgraceful thing to happen. Police are useless when it comes to VAWG.