Would you let your child go on this school trip?

[Bubblegirly]

Hello

7yr old in year 3 has the opportunity to go to London to see a musical. It’s for those children who are involved in performing arts at school. It’s an evening performance and coach will likely not be home to midnight. It’s on a school night (organised by school) and children are allowed in later the next day.

1 parent is point blank saying no because it’s too late!
other parent thinks 1 late night is ok for a child that has a well established routine generally and that they will be sad to miss out!

YANBU = let them go
YABU= don’t let them go it’s too late

It's one night.
Sounds like an amazing experience.
I wouldn't think twice and would be really excited on DS's behalf.

I just think about the teachers and aides who don't get to see their own families at all that day because they left home at sparrowfart and don't get home till 2am the following morning.

Then are back in at work after 7am the next day.

So our kids can have these experiences.

Those CUNTS.

How much do they want to go? If the answer is they're really keen, let them go.

If they're meh about it ask them if they'd like to go. If they say yes let them.

If they don't want to go, don't send them.

See easy peasy.

It's fine, and exciting, let them go!

Seven year olds, that late at night will be tired, tearful, sick, out of routine, grumpy, scared of the dark

Why woud they be scared of the dark? A seven year old has seen 'the dark' before.

Yes definitely...it's a one off and will probably be very exciting for them. I guess a lot would fall asleep on the way home

Oh absolutely let them go if they want to! It’s one night and they will make amazing memories, I took DD to a pop concert when she was 6 and we didn’t get home till 1ish, she went to school the next day at normal time I just made sure the teacher knew she’d had a late night. She still talks about it years later, well worth the one off late night!

You say the child is involved in performing arts - welcome to the world of MT/acting parents. There will be shows, performances and events all which have late finishes. But they thrive on the buzz of both performing and watching others perform. I first took my DD to a west end show when she was 4 - that’s probably what lit her fire, she slept in the car home and was fine the next day. This is now career and Mamma Mia at 4 and Wicked at 8 are two defining moments for her.

Im on the fence one child would of been gone the other a nightmare if up late. Probably sleep on the coach though if you sent a blanket and a cuddly cushion

Sounds off, given that the poster was indicating real life problems that impact on some parents every single day when even the slightest change to the school day is made.

If a child wants to go, are plans put in place to allow that, even if their parents can't pick up out of hours or can't drop off late.

Sounds great if your child wants to go. However people do need to take into account someone will have to collect them late and someone will have to drop them late into school the next day.

100% DD would be going!

Oh yes, it's something they’ll always remember. Childhood is meant to have the odd late night excitement of being on a coach with your pals, eating sweets and having fun. If mine was too exhausted the next day, she’d go in after lunch.

Yes. Cultural capital is important. Does your child want to go?

Don’t give up, we need and appreciate you.

Both my kids did these trips from their prep school at that age. They were absolutely buzzing with it. I am a working mother, I managed it. Other child also just got taken in a bit late.

It never even occurred to me to say no. Even if they are a bit tired the next day, they are Y3. Not exactly a critical school year.

Whichever parent (mum or dad) is saying no, needs to unclench a little here. Little Johnny will be fine.

I would 100% let them go.

Even if the late night pick up is tricky, it shouldn't be insurmountable. And if the morning is an issue - well, take them in normal time. Late nights generally aren't something that can't be navigated around, especially for one night only.

i would let them go, if it didnt affect me, having to pick up and take in a bit later the next day
they will enjoy it

If your child wants to go, then yes. They’ll love the show and the whole thing will be an adventure for them, staying out late and falling asleep with their friends on the journey home.

Why, what do you think it's gonna happen in that their big bad London at night, to a gaggle of 7-year-olds & their teachers 🙄🙇🏻‍♀️.

You do realise that seven-year-olds live in London??

Why? Just choose a matinee or don’t offer the trip to such young children. The world won’t end for them culturally if they don’t see an evening show at aged 7

Stop being so overly dramatic about why you bother as a teacher and think that maybe parents have lives and other kids too.

How would you mitigate all the other points in my post about travel and pick ups and single and/or working parents?

How far away is the trip 2 hours? I wouldn't like to be an adult on that trip. My son would probably sleep through it, once he's asleep a bomb couldn't wake him up and he literally has zero coordination when not naturally woken, I couldn't put someone through it, but if your child could stay awake and enjoy it, yep.

OMG yes let her go.

Parents like the op are partly why teachers are leaving in droves.
It’s an offer of a trip-just say no.
Why all the bloody moaning?

Thanks.