to tell DH to come straight home and miss BIL's birthday BBQ?

[2point4kids]

BILs birthday today. Him and SIL planned a birthday BBQ at the IL's house.
DH, his parents and both SILs and both BILs have all been away all weekend at a wedding.
I couldnt go as no children allowed at wedding and DS2 is newborn and too little to leave all weekend.
The plan was for them all to leave their hotel straight after breakfast and be home for lunch time today. I would meet them there with the kids and BBQ would commence.
They didnt actually leave till lunch time. I just had a message saying they are on the way and will be at least another 1.5 hours!
I have been on my own all weekend. DS2 is having a growth spurt and feeding loads. Up in the night loads. DS1 started the day today at 6am. I am KNACKERED.
Going to the BBQ will mean staying up later than I would want to, so even less sleep tonight.
Feel like calling DH and saying come straight home. Take the boys to the park and I will go to bed.

BUT its BILs birthday. The BBQ was planned a while back. I've got his birthday card and present here. If we dont go then it will just be a BBQ for BIL and SIL as the others are not coming back till tonight!

AIBU to not go?? I have to go really dont I??

No, you really don't have to go.
Maybe ask DH to stay for a while at BILs house, but then make his excuses and come home.
You're exhausted and need a bit of support.
Nothing unreasonable in that.
BIL will cope with getting his card and present another day, I'm sure.

Ask your DH to come and get one or both kids, and the card and present, and take them to the BBQ while you get some rest.

How well do you get on with your BIL and SIL? Could you go up for a snooze when you get there. Have 20 mins (no more!) and you'll feel really refreshed.

Oh ARSE!
I liked the idea of getting DH to take kids over without me. Just called him to say that and SIL answered the phone. DH is driving.
SIL all excited and chirpy and 'really looking forward to seeing you' and I just said 'great, see you in a couple of hours then'

I am such a wimp (albeit a tired and fed up one)

agree with bran

It's tricky when you said that to SIL. You could still change your mind I suppose. I always get myself into these situations, as don't like saying no to other people, but then have a go at DP! You might perk up when you get there and have a glass of wine and see a few people. You can pass the children round to others and get everyone to wait on you.

go, you might enjoy yerself

I'll have to go now I've said that. Will look like a freak if I change my mind!
Will tell DH that he is in charge of the boys (and not his usual 'yes ok' and then be totally obliviously chatting while Ds1 wrecks the house!) and that we are staying only for a couple of hours!
They will just have t get the bbq going quickly so we can eat before I insist we bugger off! lol