I was raised catholic, but not particularly strict.
It was a big deal around the time of my holy communion when I was 8, as you need to attend church and catechism every week. We tended to go to church at Christmas and Easter too. But that was about it.
My grandparents were church goers as was/ is my aunt and godmother.
After the holy communion stuff my parents didn’t really take us to church much. At school I went to chapel almost every day of the week and sat through services every Sunday. I went to an Anglican boarding school.
anyway, I would say I’m quite removed from it all now and I don’t really like going to church. I don’t feel a connection to it.
my husband was raised catholic as well, stricter than me. More church going and he was confirmed, whereas I wasn’t confirmed ( until before I got married, as my husband really wanted to marry in a church and I had to be confirmed because I’m catholic, marrying another catholic).
we have two kids, who we’ve baptised, catholic.
they’re still small. Under 5. We’ve gone to church a few times with them, the grandparents and godparents take them sometimes ( at Christmas and also randomly ).
they don’t go to a catholic school.
I am feeling conflicted about how to raise them tbh. I always thought I would go through the motion of doing the traditional things with them like holy communion and confirmation and then leave them to it. But now I just don’t know if I can do that because I’m just not into it myself at all. I can see that the grandparents and godparents want to take charge of this for us and are pushing church a lot and I’m not sure I really like it, seeing as we just don’t really go.
my husband is definitely removed from it as well, but a little bit closer to it than I am.
I guess what I’m saying is that I would like to be the one to bring it to my kids and not the grandparents but seeing as I don’t really practice at all and don’t have a connection to it, should I just leave it ?
I know we had them christened, but it’s more symbolic and traditional to me, rather than because I believe in it all. The same for my wedding in church, I only did it because I knew my husband wanted to but it he hadn’t, I wouldn’t have.
their grandparents and aunts and uncles are involved in their lives in many ways. I’m just to sure I’m comfortable with them bringing religion to my kids when we don’t really practice it. Also they’re only 5 and 3 and have said they don’t like church and find it boring.