Feel like I can’t live in the present

[jinn2025]

Hi

strange one but I feel like I can’t enjoy now and live in the moment and I’m always chasing the next thing. What to do next? What to do tonight?
in really don’t want this to rub off of my kids and a friend I know who works in mental health said I think you have attention deficit disorder.
What can I do?

Ask your GP for a referral to get an assessment. If it turns out you do have ADHD then you can access support for it.

Is that not being ambitious and a good thing. Why do you want to live in the moment and think you can’t. Doesn’t everyone plan things when they’re relaxing, and if you like to full up your time what’s wrong with that?

Listen to:

Wayne Dyer or Ekhart Tolle -both on You Tube.

Practise mindfulness & gratitude

Make a plan to sit with yourself

I was a bit like this.

Then I woke up with sudden onset hearing loss. It has dramatically affected my life and I'm not sure of the long term consequences.

So my advice is - enjoy each day. The small stuff. A walk with the children. A good cup of tea. Chasing more and more is never going to satisfy you. Life is all about the small stuff and little moments that bring you joy. Try to practice gratitude.

You just never know what is going to happen and when.

I can be like this. I was always trying to make life 'better'. For me it didn't stop until I'd overcommitted myself long term and realised there was no room for adding more and that I had made my life crazy, not better. I've tried since then to slow things down. So ask yourself, can this wait until tomorrow? Will it be calmer and better if I do it later? You have to be able to trust that it will happen when and if the time is right.

For example, right now I have an itch to move house, for no real reason. Old me would have been in a new house already! But I've slowed it down and really deliberately reminded myself that houses are always there, that it would be too much for me right now, and that the whole experience will be far better if I wait a few years (for various practical reasons). This has given me the chance to appreciate the house I actually have, and to think about small changes I can make, so has brought me back to the present.

My husband is like this. We call it his ‘push, push, push’. He says it’s the only way things get done.

Whereas I’m laid back, in the moment, a bit of crystal energy, nose breathing, yoga and in the moment. And things get done!

He has had a stroke, so he has had to slow down. He now appreciates my way of life. He can’t change though so we do try to
meet somewhere in the middle.

Even if you do have an undiagnosed condition,
mindfulness practice will only be beneficial.