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Privacy gone nuts?

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Whattheheck12345 · 30/04/2025 23:14

Need to understand about this, sat here thinking wtf.
We have a big friendship group, known eachother 20 years (group is 10+ lads), plus the girlfriends... Mostly the girlfriends joined along the way as the men got with them etc. but some were also from school, 15 years ago so we are all close.

Tonight we had a big get together at our house as one of our friend were back from NZ visiting. We invited his mum, dad, dads wife, sister, cousin, auntie uncle etc. so it was his party pretty much, but at ours.

Our friendship groups has had children over the past year, while he's been away so we had about 5 babies there. Which was also a good time for us, a few of the babys were under 3 months old, so exciting time for all of us.

Anyway, We had a big group photo for him. About an hour later, as the early ones started leaving, we got a message to say 'remember, don't post our baby online, you can add an emoji instead.

Am i going bats**t crazy or would you not even join the group photo. Its a big event for us, our friends home, were all getting a photo together. Why even join the photo. Not just that but, right at the front. smack bang in the middle. why not hide away at the side.

Its not like any of us have 100k followers, we're a small town & maybe have 200-300 followers each

AIBU - Emoji isnt a problem
AINBU - Get out the fecking photo

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Sweaterbag · 30/04/2025 23:41

Personally I never posted pictures of DC until they were old enough to consent, and then rarely. I wouldn't post pictures of anyone else who didn't know the picture was taken for that purpose, so that would include a child.

Once pictures are out there, there's no bringing them back and who's to know wjat might happen in that child's life in the future that means being included in your picture might be uncomfortable for him?

Masking the baby's face isn't a big ask.

JustTalkToThem · 01/05/2025 01:49

It takes two seconds to emoji out a face. Why wouldn’t you want to do what your friend asked?

Also - when you ask why get it he photo at all? Lots of people don’t feel like photos are only for social media. Maybe they wanted the photo for their own collection but not to put online. Why do you feel like the photo has to go online?

Greenfinch7 · 01/05/2025 02:05

I agree that it's silly- no one cares about baby's face, and the baby won't care when he is 15 either.
There is so much crap online- a group photo including some semi-anonymous kids is not worth fussing about. However, people love to fuss... and many people seem to think that they are the first people ever to have a baby.

There is no use arguing with parents; I would just do what they want, but would find it kind of stupid.

HuffleMyPuffle · 01/05/2025 02:06

Photos aren't just for social media

They wanted to be in the photo and are happy for you all to have a picture of baby but don't want it out there for anyone to see/AI and bots to steal

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 02:12

He probably wanted the picture, but fair enough if he doesn't want it on SM. If there's 20+ people that's thousands and thousands of people the picture can then be exposed to. I don't understand the issue, what's so hard about adding an emoji?

afig · 01/05/2025 02:21

I agree with you that it's nuts, but you'll never convince the people who think that their baby's face must not be on the Internet. I know it's not the same as keeping baby photos private, but I hate most photos of myself and am less than thrilled that Auntie K documents every family event online with photos and videos. However, life's too short to make a fuss, and when I'm dead and gone, someone might be glad those photos exist.

I'd be annoyed that they'd essentially ruined my group photo, though, if I enjoyed sharing photos on social media. At least now you know and can announce that you're taking two photos, next time: one with everyone and one with just people who aren't precious about photos going online.

afig · 01/05/2025 02:22

Emojis on photos, especially covering faces, look goofy. It ruins the look of the photo.

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