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Childcare is not a dumping ground for the unemployable

317 replies

UnsolvedMysteriesRobertStack · 30/04/2025 22:18

AIBU to feel frustrated with the new staff in childcare?

I don’t want to sound harsh, but I’m seeing more and more new staff who are simply not suited for childcare, and I’m wondering if they're being sent here because the job centre is forcing them into work. I'm talking about staff with complex ASD needs, and some who haven’t worked since their early 20s but are now being placed into jobs. There are staff who can't read or write, and they expect to just sit or tidy up all day. My colleagues and I are picking up the slack, feeling understaffed, and having to tiptoe around these situations. It’s never been this bad before.

Some staff won’t touch certain fruits due to sensory issues, can’t read a book, can’t communicate effectively, can’t lift, can’t change nappies, and struggle to talk to parents. And they’re all getting paid the same as the rest of us. I’m just wondering where these people are coming from, as it feels like there’s no industry standard anymore. It makes me feel like my qualifications and experience are being devalued. We’ve been patient, but the burden feels heavier each day.

OP posts:
MyDeftDuck · 01/05/2025 07:12

This obviously due to the DWP drive to get people off benefits and back into work but if I had a child in a nursery under those circumstances I would have concerns for my child’s well being. Are these people properly qualified, are the DBS checked, have they any knowledge of paediatric first aid?
I think OP needs to express their concerns to management and the sooner the better.

Lilactimes · 01/05/2025 07:14

nottheplan · 01/05/2025 04:26

I was only thinking the other day how brilliant a few staff members are at dcs nursery compared to the others who just seem disinterested and lacking the personality needed to work with children. In the baby room there is a bubbly girl who just lights up the room , you can tell she loves her job and the dc adore her. The others are quiet and appear to have no interest in interacting with the dc. Dc are, in turn , standoffish going to them. It's just a job to them. It's disappointing that the sector is so understaffed that practically anyone can get a job. They should at least show some bit of an interest in working with dc.

It must be so frustrating for you to deal with as a hard working staff member , seeing others get paid the same as you for doing half the work. Not fair at all. I'd like to say thank you on behalf of parents. We see you, the ones who stand out 🌟

Edited

I love this post - and totally agree.
Children know the good ones and gravitate towards them.
They do an amazing job and we absolutely know and see who the good ones are, as do the children. Xx

TheWisePlumDuck · 01/05/2025 07:15

It is the same in the care industry and due to the incoming benefit changes and rhetoric I imagine it will only get worse.

I've seen situations where the care staff are almost as disabled as the people they are caring for, but because they don't score highly enough in PIP descriptor they are forced to work. And the care industry is where they will be thrown in to.

It's an awful situation. If we as a society can't support these people who are often unemployable through no fault of their own, then we will just have to accept substandard and potentiallly dangerous care for our children, elderly and disabled adults.

justkeepswimingswiming · 01/05/2025 07:15

YANBU.

I know someone who hates spending time
with their own kids let alone other peoples kids, when they did a TA placement and appiled for a job afterwards the school quickly declined as they spent most of the time moaning about the kids.
Yet now works in a nursery. childcare is like the new retail.

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:16

Interesting, maybe SAHP will get the credit they deserve if more people have to start doing this themselves. It's not surprising since so many on here anyway seem to think it's such an easy "job", I can't believe some of the attitudes I read on here from other mothers

Vettrianofan · 01/05/2025 07:17

I know the council run nurseries have staff with BSc degrees in childcare studies equivalent qualifications employed there. Others have lower qualifications but still need to be able to cope with the demands of caring for preschool children.

TwoFeralKids · 01/05/2025 07:19

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:16

Interesting, maybe SAHP will get the credit they deserve if more people have to start doing this themselves. It's not surprising since so many on here anyway seem to think it's such an easy "job", I can't believe some of the attitudes I read on here from other mothers

No mention of the attitudes I read from SAHMs to other mums though?

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:26

TwoFeralKids · 01/05/2025 07:19

No mention of the attitudes I read from SAHMs to other mums though?

Thanks for proving my point 🫣😆

TwoFeralKids · 01/05/2025 07:28

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:26

Thanks for proving my point 🫣😆

Whatever that was.

QuiteUnbelievable · 01/05/2025 07:29

Having been on both sides you never ever can tell unless you have eyes inside the nursery and work there or have someone you trust working in there.

Working with babies and small children is grueling, relentless and incredibly hard work especially when they're not your own.

Imagine some nursery today in this heat without air cooling systems.

The government wanted children in nursery and there is a huge early year's push and getting staff teaching early year's . It's an excellent course and covers a lot but if your student has no compassion or empathy that's not going to make them a good person to be around children.

Re the person OP describes as a work colleague I can imagine that would be frustrating. As a parent I wouldn't mind as long as they were gentle and kind toward my child

MILLYmo0se · 01/05/2025 07:29

Do you not need any qualifications to work in Early Years in the UK?

Samslaundry · 01/05/2025 07:32

TwoFeralKids · 01/05/2025 07:19

No mention of the attitudes I read from SAHMs to other mums though?

Guess Sahms will be doomed to be Sahms forever if people keep moaning about "some who haven't worked since their early twenties but are now being placed in jobs"

Now we can see why its so hard to get back into the workplace after having a few years out for the kids 😒

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:37

TwoFeralKids · 01/05/2025 07:28

Whatever that was.

Twice 🤣

ItsUpToYou · 01/05/2025 07:39

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:37

Twice 🤣

I’m confused… what is your point? That SAHPs work harder than other parents?

Neemie · 01/05/2025 07:39

recipientofraspberries · 01/05/2025 01:24

People gloating about playing the system proves nothing. Investigations into benefits fraud found that PIP has a fraud rate of... 0% in the financial year of 2024. Also in 2024, £23billion worth of benefits went unclaimed!

Some people do play the system of course, but it's such a tiny, tiny amount.

You realise that there isn’t £23 billion sitting there waiting to be claimed. If it was claimed, it would have to be cut from something else. Everything else has already been cut which is why people get frustrated because their kids are in unsuitable schools, they can’t see a doctor and they are still waiting for their rapist to be sentenced. Apparently they are being selfish though and don’t know how lucky they are.

It could be argued that if it isn’t being claimed then it maybe it isn’t needed.

Hdjdb42 · 01/05/2025 07:44

Themagicfarawaytreeismyfav · 30/04/2025 23:14

This is going to sound awful but im just being honest. When i left school in the 90’s childcare was one of the courses that the less intelligent or ambitious students did at college. I don’t know if times have changed in that regard.

Yes this, when I worked at a college all the school dropouts could only access childcare/social care and hair/beauty courses. It is an easily accessible course for someone without gcses.

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:44

QuiteUnbelievable · 01/05/2025 07:29

Having been on both sides you never ever can tell unless you have eyes inside the nursery and work there or have someone you trust working in there.

Working with babies and small children is grueling, relentless and incredibly hard work especially when they're not your own.

Imagine some nursery today in this heat without air cooling systems.

The government wanted children in nursery and there is a huge early year's push and getting staff teaching early year's . It's an excellent course and covers a lot but if your student has no compassion or empathy that's not going to make them a good person to be around children.

Re the person OP describes as a work colleague I can imagine that would be frustrating. As a parent I wouldn't mind as long as they were gentle and kind toward my child

You'd think at least liking children should be a prerequisite. I'd hate the thought of children being cared for by people who are disinterested in them, it can't be good for their development either. Hopefully this won't be a continuing trend, as then all the decent ones will leave. Disturbing of they can't even read a book!

Treesarenotforeating · 01/05/2025 07:44

@Livelovebehappy Illiterate people can not do factory work because there isn’t any factories that could employ them . those jobs are long gone along with manufacturing
it’s all been closed/ made abroad

5128gap · 01/05/2025 07:45

You might want to pop over to one of the many benefit bashing threads and share your story there OP. It would be helpful for people insisting everyone needs to work to see the real life impact when people are in jobs that their abilities, health conditions, age and aptitude make impossible for them. Because we should expect to see a lot more of this when the government inevitably starts to pay employers to take on the long term unemployed. People will be pushed into low paid roles they can't do and the government subsidy, plus the extra pool of 'bums on seats' to fill the roles will keep wages low. I'm not suggesting for a moment that people with disabilities and health conditions should be excluded from the work place, sometimes all that's needed are the right adjustments. But realistically, as your experience demonstrates, employers don't make them properly to enable their staff, they often either leave them to struggle or off load their work onto other people.

Stegochops · 01/05/2025 07:45

Realistically there are lots of people who are / are not disabled but don’t have the correct attitude and motivation for work. We have all had lazy colleagues but there are some people that are a lot worse than that. There are many people who have been out of work for years for lots of different reasons.

Sorry that this has happened to you OP, it’s awful getting the same pay as someone who is not pulling their weight.

StScholastica · 01/05/2025 07:46

TwoFeralKids · 01/05/2025 07:19

No mention of the attitudes I read from SAHMs to other mums though?

Please don't turn this into another thread where we start criticising SAHM Vs Working Mum's.
I've done both. Both can be difficult. As parents we just have to do what is right for our particular families.

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 01/05/2025 07:49

MILLYmo0se · 01/05/2025 07:29

Do you not need any qualifications to work in Early Years in the UK?

No 50% of staff can be unqualified. We've had unqualified staff who work harder and better then ones who are qualified.

I think though some people do come into the role thinking be a easy job just play all day and then reality it is a lot harder and you have to constantly push them or remind them to do things. Some do tend to click into place however and others eventually leave.

Tbrh · 01/05/2025 07:50

ItsUpToYou · 01/05/2025 07:39

I’m confused… what is your point? That SAHPs work harder than other parents?

If people place so little value on it, it's not surprising that it's translating to paid childcare work 🤷🏼‍♀️ I know not everyone has that attitude but it is quite prominent on here.

Bbq1 · 01/05/2025 07:52

CarpetKnees · 30/04/2025 22:27

I'm assuming they're taking part in recruiting interviews? Maybe ask your boss why they're hiring unsuitable people?

The Nurseries are so desperate for staff that "a body" in the room means they don't have to close the room and say to parents they can't leave their dc.

This has been the case for a few years.

Same in schools. Almost half of our staff is supply - permanently. Some are really unsuitable and we've had some really nexperienced/unsuitable supply turn up who then get paid more than qualified and experienced staff. One lady couldn't speak any English whatsoever - and this is a SEN School.

BeakyFlinders · 01/05/2025 07:56

recipientofraspberries · 01/05/2025 00:24

But it's all very well talking about this in theory, that people who can get themselves up and out of the house "should be" working, at a job that suits them and their specific needs... but where are these jobs? What job actually exists that simply entails getting out of the house and arriving somewhere? There isn't one!!

I've done a wide range of jobs in my life and nowadays, even "menial" shop work isn't simple. For example, shop floor staff in a supermarket no longer simply restock shelves. They're also expected to do ad hoc cleaning, pick items from shelves for online orders, hop on tills when needed, use complicated handsets.

We have to get real, the work just isn't out there that suits the needs of many disabled people AND meets the needs of businesses and organisations today.

I don't say "all" - I'm specifically referring to the section of people who have erstwhile been claiming benefits because they can't work, now being forced into work.

This is so true. I’m an MSc qualified professional with a 20 year background in a high profile public role. I’m also autistic. My first job on leaving college was customer service at M&S. There is simply no way I could work in a supermarket now. The technicalities and technology would completely bamboozle me. If I didn’t have my qualifications, I’d find it almost impossible to access the majority of ‘entry level’ roles these days.

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