To find work easier than being home with my toddlers

[2under2mamamoo]

I love my children aged 1 and 3. They attend nursery Mon- Fri from 8-4.30and I work full time which I really enjoy.
I won’t lie . It is easier being at work than at home with both children. Normally, after the weekend I am ready to get back to work for some calm time !!!! The children seem to be very happy at nursery .

I keep seeing instagram/ social media posts which all allude to the fact that childhood is short and you need to be present as you blink and suddenly children are gown up and the magic years are gone and then you just have adults who don’t need you. I love small children but I also love work . I feel so guilty that I’m working full time when if I really wanted i could be part time or maybe not work at all.
As I watch the children grow it makes me so emotional and I wish they could stay small forever but visual they can’t . But I just feel so guilt my that I’m being selfish going to work and not seeing the children more during these magic years.
Sometimes on the weekend I feel the days are so so long and I am ready for the children to go to bed at 4pm. Sometimes i dread picking then children up and the madness which I know which follows it I hate myself for feeling like this.
I’m so so scared I will look back and I will wonder why on earth I was missing out so so much on my children’s precious years . Does anyone else feel this guilty? Anyone else find work easier than home ?
AIBU to prefer to be at work than at home?

This sums it up for me. There can be lovely times. And then DS will have a horrible time because of some slight to his two year old world view. I didn’t feel the highs and lows people talk of during the baby stage, but I get it now!

It’s a major reason I go to work

YANBU to find whichever is easier easier. Personally I found being at home with my small dc way easier than work. It obviously depends on what your particular dc and job are like though! My job involves being in charge of 30 kids at a time, vs 2 of my own...

23 month old and 8 month old SAHM here. It makes zero sense for me to be at work. I’d need 4K a month to have them both in daycare

I’m exhausted, keep getting ill, I now have mastitis and an infection and I still have to manage and feed two babies

I’d love to chill with a warm cup of tea and biscuits without anyone shouting or crying or trying to snatch my food

Doesnt help MIL keeps saying I’m lazy and she managed okay and had a spotless house. (She had a 12 year gap with DH the youngest, not 2u2 and both kids were in school and her husband worked part time to sort out house chores for the first 3 years of my partners life. She first said this when I was 7 months pregnant with number 2. Something I have hated her since. Can’t stand her now

I think it’s just children are unreasonable and behave oddly at inconvenient times. I mean if Sandra at work shoved a carrot up her nose and you couldn’t get it out. Then the kindly GP who squeezed you in Couldn’t get it out as she went into tantrum mode and then the next day you had to drive 60 miles when you were supposed to be doing a really important bit of work to see a consultant with a magic pair of tweezers to hoik if out you’d probably be thinking it was harder.

‘Magic years’ what a load of crap
I hated the toddler phase and like you sought reprieve in work.
I now love being a mum to a 6 and 8 year old

They are hard ages.. it will get easier :)

I appreciate this is your experience but I’m sure you’re aware this is not how it is at work for many many people right?

i resuscitate people for a living. The most well-rested I’d been in years was on mat leave. I actually laid down in a bed at least for a short period every night! Amazing. It was also the time I was most consistently able to do things like drink water, eat food or wee once within a 12 hour window.

It’s always relative and how easy you find being at home depends on how easy both your job and your children are.