To think things in the past can’t truly be recovered?

[QuiteJadeDreamer]

People always talk about “‘making things right” or “going back to how things were” but is that ever really possible? Once something is lost - whether it’s a friendship, trust, or a phase of life - can you ever get it back or do you just create something new in its place?

I think it's more the new in it's place. It's impossible to forget something that has changed your life, but you can repair and move forward.

Well, no of course not. I think people who say things like that are hoping to just go back to a time when things were easier for them and they probably weren’t forced to have the accountability they are today. People wouldn’t be hoping to return to the old status quo if the changes in a person, situation, whatever worked to their benefit.

I’m NC with my mum, for instance. She often says things like this. I’m sure she would love for things to go back to when she didn’t have to be accountable for her behaviour that put my kids at risk, but that’s not where we’re at anymore. You can fix it in the present or you can choose not to. But you can’t have things undone and unseen.