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To think that having a mammogram carried out by a man is preferable to a long wait for an appointment.

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JudithOnHolidayAgain · 29/04/2025 08:29

I know many people who wouldn't be here now without early detection of breast cancer due to the screening programme.
I have had a few myself.
It's not something I look forward to but it's a few minutes of discomfort that could save my life so I put up with it.
Given the choice I would prefer a woman carry it out as it is quite intrusive but as there is a shortage of female staff I would be ok with a male member of staff as long as there was a chaperone and Iwas told in advance.
If they do change the rules I think there should be a choice.

OP posts:
Americano75 · 01/05/2025 18:01

SummerFeverVenice · 01/05/2025 16:10

You have obviously never gone into theatre to have surgery. You walk in, you strip, you get on the table and lie down on your back, your breasts/torso get swabbed down with antiseptic cleaner in full view of several staff male and female. The heart monitors are stuck to you, your arms are strapped down like you’re being crucified, the mask goes on and then the anaesthesia is put through your cannula via IV. You have time to hold a conversation while mostly naked.

I have, and this was absolutely not my experience at all.

Soontobe60 · 01/05/2025 18:01

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 17:52

Nobody should be getting free degrees from the government. NHS staff already get gold plated pensions that we can’t afford, free degrees on top is ludicrous. There are shortages in many many fields of work which we need.

Yes, there certainly is. Giving certain areas of much needed careers a bursary system to ensure that we are future-proofing the NHS is extremely important. NHS staff dont get ‘gold plated pensions’ as you so wrongly put it.
Next time you cant get a GP appointment, dont moan.

Jumpers4goalposts · 01/05/2025 18:11

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 17:52

Nobody should be getting free degrees from the government. NHS staff already get gold plated pensions that we can’t afford, free degrees on top is ludicrous. There are shortages in many many fields of work which we need.

Why not?

I didn’t say it should just be the NHS I said all professions that are needed by society and there is a shortage.

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:29

Jumpers4goalposts · 01/05/2025 18:11

Why not?

I didn’t say it should just be the NHS I said all professions that are needed by society and there is a shortage.

The list is endless. NHS staff are on good wages and get a stonking pension, they should pay for their own degree. Nurses already get a bursary. Doctors are made well above most people.

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:30

Soontobe60 · 01/05/2025 18:01

Yes, there certainly is. Giving certain areas of much needed careers a bursary system to ensure that we are future-proofing the NHS is extremely important. NHS staff dont get ‘gold plated pensions’ as you so wrongly put it.
Next time you cant get a GP appointment, dont moan.

The reason we can’t get GP appontments is because GPs can’t get jobs not because they don’t want to be GPs.

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:35

I am surprised that @Fr33asaB1rd still has the hide to show their face on this thread since they were caught out blatantly lying about the procedure of a mammogram where they said they were told where to stand and no one touched them or the machine, when the mammographer has to not only physically manipulate the breasts into the plates, but physically move the slide and scale. One would think that they would have the shame to turn tail and leave the thread, quietly, hoping no one mentioned their monumental stuff up in the thread again.

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:38

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:35

I am surprised that @Fr33asaB1rd still has the hide to show their face on this thread since they were caught out blatantly lying about the procedure of a mammogram where they said they were told where to stand and no one touched them or the machine, when the mammographer has to not only physically manipulate the breasts into the plates, but physically move the slide and scale. One would think that they would have the shame to turn tail and leave the thread, quietly, hoping no one mentioned their monumental stuff up in the thread again.

I have had many mammograms thanks so my experience is relevant and the physical touching ( which is through gloves)has been minimal. Nurses do not stand behind you for 10 minutes either as per the ridiculous scaremongering on here .

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:43

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:38

I have had many mammograms thanks so my experience is relevant and the physical touching ( which is through gloves)has been minimal. Nurses do not stand behind you for 10 minutes either as per the ridiculous scaremongering on here .

Seriously? Enough. You said you were told where to stand and put your boobs. That is NOT what happens in any mammogram. And anyone who has had a mammogram will testify to that. You were called out by me and others and by an actual Mammographer. On this very thread. You have never had a mammogram. Your posts are a testimony to that. And no, the physical touching is NOT 'minimal'. You give yourself away. So have the self respect to stop embarrassing yourself further.

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:46

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:43

Seriously? Enough. You said you were told where to stand and put your boobs. That is NOT what happens in any mammogram. And anyone who has had a mammogram will testify to that. You were called out by me and others and by an actual Mammographer. On this very thread. You have never had a mammogram. Your posts are a testimony to that. And no, the physical touching is NOT 'minimal'. You give yourself away. So have the self respect to stop embarrassing yourself further.

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Oh give over with your hysteria I have had several mammograms thanks as any woman of my age will have. The touching was so minimal I can’t remember any touching but a shed load of verbal instructions which I followed.

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:49

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:46

Oh give over with your hysteria I have had several mammograms thanks as any woman of my age will have. The touching was so minimal I can’t remember any touching but a shed load of verbal instructions which I followed.

Stop lying. They have to physically manipulate your breasts in between plates. The physical touch is a lot. Not 'minimal'. You give yourself away. You've just shown with that, that you have never had a mammogram. Even women who have no problems with men doing it KNOW you are full of sheet. The thing with mammograms is that there is a LOT of touching and manipulating and pulling.

You've shown you've never had one. With your own words. Give it up.

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:53

I’m given good instructions re leaning etc, position boob myself under instruction and I’m given verbal instructions as to how to stand, lean and position arm with radiographer standing elsewhere whilst the pics are taken.

The mammographer doesn't 'tell' you, they help you position your arms, they physically lift your breasts, they physically move your body. The radiographer (mammographer) is NOT "standing elsewhere".

Stop the crap.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 01/05/2025 18:53

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 18:46

Oh give over with your hysteria I have had several mammograms thanks as any woman of my age will have. The touching was so minimal I can’t remember any touching but a shed load of verbal instructions which I followed.

Do you think it is possible that your experience of mammograms is not the same as other women’s experience of them, @Fr33asaB1rd?

I have had two, and there was a lot of manhandling to get my boobs in the right place - maybe you are just one of the lucky few.

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:56

Even the Mammographer called you out. But I missed the "hysteria" part. To me, that misogynistic term confirms to me what I guessed all along. It's a male on here getting off on reading about this. But fucking up when he assumed mammograms where like ordinary xrays where you are told where to stand with minimal contact. Just an AGP I would guess.

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 19:01

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 18:56

Even the Mammographer called you out. But I missed the "hysteria" part. To me, that misogynistic term confirms to me what I guessed all along. It's a male on here getting off on reading about this. But fucking up when he assumed mammograms where like ordinary xrays where you are told where to stand with minimal contact. Just an AGP I would guess.

You need to stop.The scaremongering on this thread is just appalling. Some seem determined to shoe horn male hatred into any thread they can. I have been a MNer for many years and I’m most definitely female. I’ve also had many mammograms with minimal touching. The worst bit is the clamping but they are incredibly gentle and it doesn’t hurt.

BurntBroccoli · 01/05/2025 19:06

testyarm · 29/04/2025 08:42

The solution is to recruit or train more women surely! I don’t take this lightly. I’ve been having annual mammograms for years because of my family history. But I do not want a man literally manhandling my boobs.

Yes this - but also wouldn’t a man need a chaperone in which case they will be more expensive to employ?

These are technicians not Drs.

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 19:07

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 19:01

You need to stop.The scaremongering on this thread is just appalling. Some seem determined to shoe horn male hatred into any thread they can. I have been a MNer for many years and I’m most definitely female. I’ve also had many mammograms with minimal touching. The worst bit is the clamping but they are incredibly gentle and it doesn’t hurt.

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You have no shame do you? You're not fooling anyone. Mammograms are a test when there is intensive physical touching. There has to be by definition because the Mammographer is there all the time manipulating your breasts and moving the plates. You fucked up. You took a gamble that it would be like an xray but it is one of the most labour-intensive and physically hands on test there is. You made a fool of yourself. And this is not about 'male hatred'. But thank you for PROVING that you're a male and misogynistic with that comment.

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 19:09

The worst bit is the clamping but they are incredibly gentle and it doesn’t hurt.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Yep, a male. A live one.

"Clamping". Oooooh, clamping!!
"But it doesn't hurt."

Girls, we have a live one here. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Men need to know when they've been exposed and the game is up. There is a lot to be said for honour and walking away.

Edit: forgot incredibly gentle! Snort bwhaahhaahaha

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 19:16

On a thread about a woman feeling undermined about breastfeeding: "Why do you need to bang on about it and seek validation? Breast feeding is one of the least important parts to raising a child to adulthood."

Yup, MALE! (my guess is a male feeling frustrated his female partner is using her breasts to feed their baby and not for his gratification).

SwordOfOmens · 01/05/2025 19:23

I absolutely would not want to have a male do it, so it isn't really a choice when it's either

A. A man
Or
B. Wait years and die of breast cancer

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 19:30

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 19:16

On a thread about a woman feeling undermined about breastfeeding: "Why do you need to bang on about it and seek validation? Breast feeding is one of the least important parts to raising a child to adulthood."

Yup, MALE! (my guess is a male feeling frustrated his female partner is using her breasts to feed their baby and not for his gratification).

Edited

It is though. I have adult children and breast feeding is pretty much the single most pointless parenting decision I agonised over. It is ok to say that. Many many women have the same opinion .

Fr33asaB1rd · 01/05/2025 19:32

FlakyCritic · 01/05/2025 19:09

The worst bit is the clamping but they are incredibly gentle and it doesn’t hurt.

😂😂😂😂😂😂

Yep, a male. A live one.

"Clamping". Oooooh, clamping!!
"But it doesn't hurt."

Girls, we have a live one here. 😂😂😂😂😂😂

Men need to know when they've been exposed and the game is up. There is a lot to be said for honour and walking away.

Edit: forgot incredibly gentle! Snort bwhaahhaahaha

Edited

“While some people experience discomfort or pain during mammograms due to the compression required for clear x-rays, it's generally not painful. The pressure can feel tight or squeezing, and the duration of the procedure is typically short. The metal clamps themselves, used to hold the breast in place, are not the primary source of discomfort. “

No many don’t find it painful. Your scaremongering isn’t going to encourage women to have mammograms.

MadKittenWoman · 01/05/2025 19:34

Having a mammogram is a necessary evil. It’s bad enough having my 30Gs grabbed, squeezed and squashed by a woman. I really wouldn’t want it done by a man.

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Vitrolinsanity · 01/05/2025 19:45

Choice, but you’d need to understand that that choice comes with a delay. I can say without hesitation it wouldn’t bother me one bit, but that’s not everyone’s bag.

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