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To be really fed up with my cousin

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Sistersistersisters · 28/04/2025 19:20

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To be really fed up with my cousin to the point I want to go LC.

My cousin has always been tricky. Nothing is ever her fault, always the victim.

My family including myself have always rallied and supported her through every single disaster, crisis, dispute etc that’s occurred in her life.

I absolutely acknowledge that we have assisted in creating this cycle of cleaning up the mess. All will be fine for a few months, then repeat. For years.

I acknowledge we did this to help make it go away because it was so, so stressful. My cousin can be spoilt, rude, ungrateful and lies alot, thinking I’m too thick to know that she’s lying.

My cousin now has a 3 year old child. My cousin is 42.

She is a single parent and has met a man. In my opinion a walking red flag. They have been “dating” for eight weeks.

This man has stayed in her home overnight and they have spent a lot of time together in these eight weeks. Along with her 3 year old child.

I am appalled.

I want to leave her to it and go LC. I have so far said nothing. As she always knows best, has excuses or lies about what’s happening, what she’s been doing etc

I only want to stay in contact at all for the sake of the child.

OP posts:
Evaka · 28/04/2025 19:21

What worries you about the man? Aside from her awful judgment in having him overnight in the house?

Sistersistersisters · 28/04/2025 19:23

4 children, 3 mums. 2 marriages. Children 12 and under. No job.

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Showerflowers · 28/04/2025 19:28

Op I have a sister who I love dearly, but she lurches from one disaster to another! She’s exhausting. Family used to rally round to sort her latest mess out but she’s mid forties now and we’ve just realised she doesn’t really care about anyone but herself.

so we’ve all just took a step back.

she’s been angry about it. But she won’t listen to any advice we give her.

your cousin won’t change. Just leave her to it and go low contact.

Sistersistersisters · 28/04/2025 19:29

@Showerflowers I think I’m at this point now. Particularly as help is always a one way street.

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Showerflowers · 28/04/2025 20:08

Sistersistersisters · 28/04/2025 19:29

@Showerflowers I think I’m at this point now. Particularly as help is always a one way street.

Oh I know the feeling. I’ve given my sister so much support. We recently had scary health results for our dc and I told her. And I’ve not heard a thing since. Not even a quick text to check how the tests went. She’s so wrapped up in herself that she literally forgets all the rest of the families birthdays/events. But if we forgot hers she would hit the roof x

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