DP talking on the phone to his friend when I’m in the car

[JadeneYoga]

Anyone else’s partner turn into a laddish twat in front of you when speaking to a friend? DP picked me up from work and his friend was on the hands free. Friend basically said something along the lines of it’s pub weather, and DP’s response was to say ‘given what I’ve seen today I expect there’ll be tits and arse everywhere, so let’s get down there sharpish’ and they both found it hilarious.

Ick!!!

He’s a pig

You are looking at it the wrong way around.

You should be asking "how does a laddish twat manage to hide his true self from me when we are alone so that I don't realise what an asshole is actually is?"

The problem isn't his friend, the problem isn't the phonecall. He is the problem.

I'd have just said something like 'that's one way to make the women go home, you two cave men turning up', I grew up with an older brother and only male friends (rural life and I was the only girl for miles) and it stood to me in learning how to shut up idiots like those two. I can be a lot less polite than that when necessary.

Didn't you say anything??

My DH swears a lot more when on phone to mates but I don’t think he’d dare say anything like that in front of me! 😱

He has no respect for you at all

Yes, I had a right go at him afterwards.

Same, my DH reverts to 'cockney geezer' mode when his old school mates are on the phone, but it's just 'alright bruv' and 'what's gwarnin' 'whag wan' rather than his usual very sensible polite manager self. Any comments like that 'tits and arse' he would be sleeping in the spare room

wtf is a what’s gwarnin wag wan?

I'd have said "yeah you're the tit and your friend is the arse"

"I say, old bean, what is going on? What is going on?"

I know, it's bizarre😂
It roughly means 'what's going on/what's up'

Wasn’t sure how to vote but I would say:
YANBU - that is twatish behaviour
YABU - DH doesn’t behave like that.

I would say it is normal for people to speak differently depending on who they are with - at work, with clients, female friends/male friend etc. But talking about women like that - no, not a good look.

Perfect response 😄😄😄

My DH has a kind of reverse telephone voice when he’s talking to some of his friends on the phone. He goes all geezer-ish

He's never said anything vaguely disrespectful (in my earshot at any rate) but it does make me laugh, especially as he usually reverts back to his normal speaking voice when he’s actually with them.

my husband is the same man In front of friends, family and me. I wouldn’t want to be with someone who flip flopped their personalities to what they think different people would like from them.

You’re lucky. It gives me the ick actually if I date someone who has a different voice/personality for different people 😑

How do feel about "phone voices" as a matter of interest. I'm from the West country and, sadly, my accent is declining, is rarely heard on radio or tv (apart from outlaws , Ian Holloway and Josie Gibson). So whenever I speak on the phone no one understands a word I say! It took me 10 minutes for Barclays phone service to understand my account number this week ... I've not worked in a call centre for 20years and my phone voice had gone!

I can't believe he said this in front of you unless he was deliberately trying to wind you up?!

Without hearing the words, I can tell who dh is talking to on the phone. He definitely has multiple personalities 😂 For instance, he has never knowingly sworn in front of me (no idea why, because I can have a mouth on me), but would turn the air blue with friends and colleagues. He would always rein it in if I came into the room.

It sounds like your dp is more concerned with impressing his friends than impressing you op, and that’s not a good sign in a relationship.