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To wear this to a wedding?

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hwfg · 28/04/2025 13:31

We are having a bit of a chat about this dress. Is it appropriate to wear to your sister’s wedding? Not me looking to wear it. My friend is the bride and has been sent this as a potential option from a family member

To wear this to a wedding?
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BankHolidayBonanza · 28/04/2025 13:55

it's inappropriate and the family member feeling the need to ASK should tell her it's the wrong dress for a wedding.

It's such a shitty move to ask the bride, unless it's only to avoid clashing with the bridesmaids - which is not the case here.

There are so many options for wedding guests, I will never understand this obsession to try to wear dressed like that.

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hwfg · 28/04/2025 13:59

BankHolidayBonanza · 28/04/2025 13:55

it's inappropriate and the family member feeling the need to ASK should tell her it's the wrong dress for a wedding.

It's such a shitty move to ask the bride, unless it's only to avoid clashing with the bridesmaids - which is not the case here.

There are so many options for wedding guests, I will never understand this obsession to try to wear dressed like that.

The family member didn’t exactly ask, she said this is what she’s order so for all we know, it might not be the one she goes for. But my friend is the least girly girl you could ever meet so we were just so excited for her to actually go through with a wedding and enjoy picking a dress and everything else that comes with it. The family members haven’t exactly made it easy for her so she just feels weird about this dress

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user2848502016 · 28/04/2025 13:59

I think it’s fine as long as bridesmaids aren’t in a similar colour

SmallSoupcon · 28/04/2025 14:00

It's a yellow floral frock, not a wedding dress. And it's lovely! I'd probably pair it with a yellow cardi, coz British weather, innit.

HuffleMyPuffle · 28/04/2025 14:01

I can't see how a guest wearing this dress changes anything about the bride picking and trying on dresses 🤷‍♀️

Uncomfotablyshort · 28/04/2025 14:04

The bride is obviously feeling unsure about it, so she should tell her sister, who is also unsure enough to have asked, that.

Uncomfotablyshort · 28/04/2025 14:06

Of that dress isn't for a wedding, what is it for?

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hwfg · 28/04/2025 14:13

Uncomfotablyshort · 28/04/2025 14:06

Of that dress isn't for a wedding, what is it for?

The brides sister in law is looking to wear this. I know there’s a lot of yellow to mask the white, but I know I wouldn’t feel right wearing it but we all have our own opinions!

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SaveMeFromMyBoobs · 28/04/2025 14:14

Personally I wouldn't because in some lighting that yellow will photograph off-white. Adding in the style I just think it's bad form. But depends on what the couple want. My wedding I wouldn't have cared if someone wore white tbh. But wouldn't wear it to someone else's in case they did.

SaveMeFromMyBoobs · 28/04/2025 14:16

Uncomfotablyshort · 28/04/2025 14:06

Of that dress isn't for a wedding, what is it for?

Christening, races, baby shower, outdoor party in summer ... not all formal events are weddings.

Buythekitkats · 28/04/2025 14:16

It's not the done thing to wear some mostly white or cream to a wedding (assuming the bride will be wearing those colours) to allow the bride to stand out. There is a whole rainbow of dresses a guest can choose from that aren't white or cream, let the bride have their one day to stand out.

Buythekitkats · 28/04/2025 14:18

Uncomfotablyshort · 28/04/2025 14:06

Of that dress isn't for a wedding, what is it for?

Anniversary/big birthday party, races, christening, formal garden party

HRTQueen · 28/04/2025 14:22

I think it is fine its a lovely dress

I have worn a similar dress to a wedding but it was light blue but i really don't think the colour matter as its not all white

LoafofSellotape · 28/04/2025 14:24

HundredMilesAnHour · 28/04/2025 13:33

It’s not really wedding appropriate.

Isn't it?

It's lovely for a summer wedding.

Aweddingoneee · 28/04/2025 14:29

Nope. If you have to ask the answer is no

Oilofeveningprimrose · 28/04/2025 14:31

100% fine, it looks nothing like a wedding dress

Kilroyonly · 28/04/2025 14:34

I really don’t understand how a lovely summer dress would be inappropriate. Sod what the bride would think just wear it if you like it, it’s very pretty

pimplebum · 28/04/2025 14:35

I wouldn’t unless you are going to accessorise it with a coloured jacket that you keep on all day and evening

it’s the strapless top and mostly white

too much if a risk the bride could be wearing something similar

if you are in doubt , leave it out

Daisyvodka · 28/04/2025 14:36

Answers on here lean quite traditional when it comes to weddings, for those whose preference is more traditional/classic British wedding then you'll get answers saying no, but in more relaxed, modern circles it would be absolutely fine - noone's mistaking her for the bride in that! Would look fab with some contrasting shoes and some funky earrings

CountryQueen · 28/04/2025 14:41

Yes it’s lovely. My advice would be to encourage your friend to embrace her new SIL and not sit around looking for things to be annoyed at her about. When she gets a bit older and has a family it will be better to all be close and get on rather than seethe over a dress.

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hwfg · 28/04/2025 14:42

CountryQueen · 28/04/2025 14:41

Yes it’s lovely. My advice would be to encourage your friend to embrace her new SIL and not sit around looking for things to be annoyed at her about. When she gets a bit older and has a family it will be better to all be close and get on rather than seethe over a dress.

I wish that was the case 😂 if she or her husband to be still speak to his family after the wedding, I’ll be in disbelief

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CountryQueen · 28/04/2025 14:53

Well that’s just silly. Nitpicking over a summer dress for a summer wedding seems like you/they want to poke the bear. Anyway, the dress is lovely and “we were worried about photos” is just stupid.

Sofiewoo · 28/04/2025 14:54

Wouldn’t bother me but if someone wanted to wear it to their sister’s wedding surely she should ask her sister?

Delphiniumandlupins · 28/04/2025 14:58

Did she want to be a bridesmaid?

Dont worry about pictures, she won't be in that many and nobody is going to mistake her for the bride (unless she's accessorising with a veil!). I think the strapless would be inappropriate in a church, without a jacket or something. I would recommend the bride just says it's fine. Anyone who is judging it's too white or too revealing will be tutting at the wearer, not the bride.

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hwfg · 28/04/2025 15:01

Thanks for all the replies! We needed some opinions from an outside perspective. I didn’t want to go into too much detail but pretty much, there has been a very very long history/pattern of my friend and her partner being treated shockingly by his family so we are looking at it with all that in mind so just needed opinions solely on the dress rather than all the other background stuff too!

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