Abuse?

[jucyjules]

father in law is very ill n hospital - declining as not eating and almost giving up.
husband and I went to see him yesterday and husband upset
I have issues with back and asked him to help with ironing. Which he did while I collected son.
i lost my temper when I came in as he was sitting with a long face and had packed up the ironing . I proceeded to get another basket of clothes so that I could do more . I wasnt happy.
he flipped his lid - blocked me from walking through door and then took the basket out of my hands and threw it across the rooms.
he then started screaming and punching the air at me. He did not hit me
I ran away upstairs to get away from him and he walked out the front door for two hours.
he later told me I was lucky about the basket of washing as what he actually wanted to do was throw it at me .
he slept in a different room and I have text him today and told him that if he is going to continue to try to scare me not to come home

What your husband did was not ok and I don’t condone that. However his father is dying and you are having a go over some ironing?! Are you for real?

I don’t understand why you needed to lose your temper because he didn’t do the ironing quickly enough for your liking when he had just come back from visiting his dying father.
That seems like a really cruel way to treat a partner.
You both sound awful, your poor son being in this environment.

I have apologised to him. I wasn’t right there is a long story about his lack of help and the mental and physical load .
he did not have to behave in the way he did - violence is not ok

May I add that when my mother was dying - he had an affair

But you decide to stay in your relationship. Why.
And yes I don't get why laundry was that important.

it isn’t - I lost my temper. .so if he had hit me would I have deserved it

So you both behave hatefully to each other?

Yeah time to call it a day I think, don't you?

Literally no one has said that.
He didn’t hit you.

You clearly hate him, your other post is about flirting with a man at work. Just separate ffs.

I also add that he was pissed

Probably agree

You two are toxic together by the sounds of it.

That's got fk all to do with this. Stop reaching.

Yes it is abuse, You are being horrible to someone when they are in the middle of a parent dying. He had his head bowed and wasn't ironing, fk right off.

Then adding in shit to try to get people onside. You sound horrible. If you hate him that much, then leave.