... to not collect dh's parcel for him?

[melpomene]

Last Wednesday a parcel arrived for dh while I was out; the courier left a card. I arranged for the parcel to be re-delivered on the Thursday, when I would be working at home all day apart from doing the school run. I stayed at home until school run time in the afternoon; tbh, I had forgotten about the parcel by that time. Of course, the parcel arrived while I was out picking up the dds. The couriers then said that they couldn't deliver the parcel a 3rd time; it would have to be collected from the depot (45 mins. drive away). So dh went out there to collect the parcel this morning, but he thinks that I should have gone to get it because I "messed up" by not phoning the courier to tell them when I was about to go out. I don't think that I should have had to collect it, especially bearing in mind that I was busy taking the dds to ballet this morning anyway.

What does the jury think?

Personally I think that sometimes dh puts himself out for me and sometimes I put myself out for him and it kind of evens out. Honestly I would just "let it go" now - parcel has been collected.

Relax and enjoy your Saturday evening together rather than prolonging a minor disagreement.

YANBU. You were doing him a favour.

I don't think the couriers would have taken the slightest bit of notice of you saying you were about to go out; that isn't how it works. They would have delivered the parcel regardless. Your dh needs to have a refresher course in how courier services work!

I would hate to go out to a restaurant with you two - you would be dividing the bill according to who had the most garlic bread or who had three glasses of wine rather that two.....

How on earth do you manage your daily life if you point score to this extent?

I agree with Tribpot. Phoning wouldn't have made any difference.

You tried to do your dh a favour and it didn't work out. It's not as though you went out on an unimportant errand that could have been done anytime. You were collecting your children from school.

Yes, that occurred to me too tribpot. I'm trying to 'let it go', but he's still bearing a bit of a grudge about it. He told dd1 that he thought I should have collected the parcel, and also told his friend on the phone that I had 'messed up' (knowing that I could hear) That really annoyed me.

This isn't just about the parcel really is it, after reading your last post?

Sounds as if there are other issues and your dp is not very happy at present?

He is having a bad time at work, and there are a few other resentments bubbling under. I think he resents that I earn very little, although he denies it.

Sorry to hear that melpomene. Sometimes the AIBU thread can produce some quite harsh responses from people so I hope that we aren't being too hard on you?

Sometimes it can be helpful to post in the Relationships section but obviously that is up to you.

Hope that any difficulties are quickly sorted out for you.

Thanks, onepieceoflollipop. I think I may take your advice from your first post and try to relax now! I know it's a very small problem in the grand scheme of things.

You are definately not being unreasonable. My husband has 2 or 3 things delivered here every week. If i'm in, i'm in. If not, he has to go and get em. End of.

Oh I am an expert at small things playing on my mind. I understand a little I think.

Go and have some wine/chocolate!

you were busy, he was busy. it's been collected, who cares?

Seriously the couriers wouldnt have taken any notice of you so someone either you or him would have to collect it today .