Lost my rag with friend

[outlanderish]

Had a falling out with longest closest friend. Long story short, I snapped at her, it's been brewing for months and months but I've drifted as I don't feel like I have anything in common with her anymore. She's more interested in drinking, partying & everything revolves around men. Shes out every single weekend without fail. She moaned she never see's me anymore, so I asked to do something with her Saturday evening just gone and she said she would let me know as she might not be feeling up for it, as she isn't drinking at the moment. Cut to Saturday, I never heard from her, she purposely ignored my message I sent in a group chat asking what everyone was up to that evening and I then found out she was at a pub in our local town at 7pm. I was fuming to say the least and sent her a shitty message and said it was fucking rude to do that to someone. Her excuse was she wasn't staying out long as she wasn't drinking, had no signal so didn't see my message on WhatsApp (I sent it in at 1pm Saturday afternoon) and that she didn't want to mention it to me as it's a long way for me to come (20 minutes) as she wasn't staying out late. I just word vomited from anger and have ignored her last message since. Apparently she was home by 8pm but it's not the point. She made absolutely no effort to let me know or even openly ask me if I wanted to come along. Also found out she was 'out out' the Friday night too.

AIBU

What is word vomit?

Lots of words came out at once in one big explosion via message.

You seem inordinately angry about this. If you don’t like this person anymore, that’s perfectly fine. You don’t have to be friends.

The friendship is clearly over so just move on I reckon.

I saw your previous thread, this event seems to be taking up a lot of your time and energy given, as you say on this one, that you were trying to pull away from her anyway given your diverging interests. In time I expect you’ll regret your outburst and she’ll see it as a justification for not inviting you out.

Focus on other friendships.

Cut your loses, focus on other friends, are lives change.
Don’t waste your energy on her

I feel sure I read exactly the same post yesterday.

That must have hurt your feelings and I'm sorry she did that, very hurtful when friends don't use their words and just tell you what's going on, how they're feeling etc. Finding out in stubs and drabs from other people rather than from her makes it worse. It's hard but you need to try to start detaching emotionally from her.