My DM and Dsis are the toxic ones

[Springslopes12]

I had a piece of furniture delivered today. Two men carried it in. I didn't really speak to either of them much. Just polite chat about my piece of furniture and then they left.
30 mins later I got a text saying along the lines of- Hi im the guy who just delivered your furniture, this is not allowed by my company and very unprofessional but I'd like to get to know you but I understand if you don't and you don't need to reply.

Obviously I'm like what on earth! I feel very uncomfortable as I'm a lone parent.
I tell my DM and Dsis.
My DM reaction is thinking it's cute! Saying how else are people suppose to meet. My Dsis also thinks it's cute and that he had some balls. Again I'm like no this isn't cute, this is crazy.
For further context and background in my past I have had abusive relationships and attracted crazy men which in the past I've entertained.
Aibu to think 1. This guy is crazy and 2. My DM and Dsis are crazy to think this is cute!
I've grown so much from my past and I now know this behaviour isn't ok and I also think my family enabled bad behaviour and encouraged me to engage with it in the past!

1 There is no evidence he is “crazy”, inappropriate yes, unprofessional yes, but I can’t see he’s crazy

2 They can have any opinion they like, it’s different to yours, it doesn’t make them wrong. Not everything has to be binary.

I don’t think it’s crazy, but it is unprofessional. Just ignore it, or say ‘thanks but no thanks’. He’s only suggested a date, he hasn’t locked you in a cellar.

I think you are being over sensitive, how are we supposed to meet men in real life? If you aren’t interested just say so and block his number

I wouldn't call it "cute" but I wouldn't describe his actions as crazy either.

"I'd like to get to know you but I understand if you don't and you don't need to reply"

Not exactly sinister.

i can’t see how it makes them toxic?

Just decline if you’re not interested.

Toxic? I thought they had gaslighted you, stolen money, reported you to social services.

So guys chanced his arm, your mum and sister think it's nice and you dont. He's not toxic and nor are they.

If you don't fancy him, reply no thanks and block. If you do arrange to meet for a coffee....It's not the end of the world

Your DM and DSis aren’t toxic.

you dont know this man’s crazy.

Evolution requires males and females to be attracted to the opposite sex and for either party to initiate dates etc for us to survive as a species.

If you don’t want to go or whatever you can ignore as he said.

Ok maybe crazy is the wrong word but he has made me feel uneasy. Just because I'm a lone female doesn't mean it's ok to get.my number and text me especially since I gave no indication that I was remotely interested.

As for my dsis and DM I guess I know them and all the other bad advice they have given me in the past

I would text back and say thanks but I’ve got a partner. Or something along those lines.

If he can chat you up how many other customers is he capable of chatting up…. I’d never trust him.

Toxic and crazy, neither are words I'd use to describe what happened here. Just ignore your dsis and mum. Even if you know their behaviour hasn't been appropriate in the past, it doesn't mean everything they do or say is toxic. They just have a different opinion to you.

I don't think the man's behaviour is crazy either. It's possible he's never done this before, but he's decided you're interesting enough to want to get to know better and is willing to risk being unprofessional. Not crazy though. As a pp suggested, politely say no and tell him that you have a partner or something. That's it.