To think that everyone experiences ups and downs in dating but some people act like they’re uniquely cursed?

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Dating isn’t always smooth sailing - everyone has their fair share of good and bad experiences. Some relationships work out, some don’t, and most people face rejection or disappointment at some point.

But I’ve noticed that some people seem to think their dating struggles are especially tragic, as if they’ve been singled out by fate for misery. They’ll insist that only they attract terrible partners, only they have the worst luck, and only they suffer through these things - when really, isn’t this just part of the process for most people?

AIBU to think that dating has its ups and downs for everyone and some people just have a victim complex about it?

I kind of agree. But online dating is a special kind of hell. I avoided it along with most of social media (owing to technical ludditeness), until about 2018, then when I went into it and I can see why people are jaded. I'm lucky that I've never developed that jaded mindset probably through lack of exposure and I also now just refuse to - it's a reflection of modern society how hard dating is, but I'm not going to let it get to my mental state. I am uniquely cursed though as I've been single for 12 years now 😂

Yeah, they’re usually massive cocks deep down

I hate to say it but sometimes I do think my best friend is uniquely cursed in the dating realm. I don’t know how she does it but she picks the absolute worst men. Some obvious and bad judgement by her, but some a complete shock, perfect on paper, perfect when subtly screened by friends, and then awful when the mask drops.

So sorry I do think YABU.

YANBU.

Some people act as though dating is mandatory.

And don't even start me on those who blame their jealousy on "I've been cheated on in the past".

I'm sorry to hear that but you have no right to make your new person's life a misery because of it.

Everyone is a victim nowadays 🙄 seems like normal life is too hard for alot of people. Everything is awful and triggering 😒

I have a very beautiful friend who has had a string of awful boyfriends (and one awful husband!) throughout her life. I can't understand it - she's lovely, kind, funny, intelligent, a wonderful mother and a loyal friend since our schooldays - how does she end up with bloody awful men, time and again? I think she must be uniquely cursed 😔

My goodness, this is exactly like both of my friends. one settles for horrendous abusive men and complains that she's unfortunate - but will stay with them, for years on and off, then move onto another one mind boggling, the other one is a serial dater, gets attached after one date, it goes sour and she's the victim. Starts saying how tragic all men are and has the attitude that she's a victim of 'men who are bang average, with a shit hairline.' She then proceeds to be negative and depressed. I will then proceed to tell her this is the whole point of dating, don't take it to heart.