Parenting

[Studz79]

Hi
this is my first time writing on here.
me and my sons dad broke up 2 years ago, our son is 10 years old. all access was around his job and days off. 1 overnight a week. Which was fine for him. Now he is asking for 3 extra nights a month which I am giving him but 2 overnights are worked around my job as if it wasn’t I would hardly see my son. My son has asked me that he doesnt want the arrangements to changed, but his dad isn’t giving him a choice. His dad has told me he isnt a baby sitter and he cant work around my job because of his job. How is this fair that he can say no when I am giving what he wants, but cos it doesn’t work for him that I got to change and miss out on my son! he’s got 3 kids by 3 different women, but only wanted them when he can have them and the other 2 mothers done it. But I love seeing my son and he wants to spend time with me.
he said I won’t win at mediation or if it goes to court to have it fair to work around both of us

I don’t really understand - there seems to be two conflating issues. If he has extra nights how does that disadvantage you doing your job?

i do shift work. So I want to make sure I see my son on my days. So what I am asking for if I’m on a late shift and early the next day then his has him. I’ve always worked around his days off to have his child. So why can’t I have the same in my days off? I am given what he wants but 2 over nights to be around me.