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5 replies

TwinkleStar161106 · 25/04/2025 22:05

This is going to be long….

my family has really been through the mill over the last few years. My d got pregnant at 20 and the dad wanted nothing to do with her or the baby but she decided she wanted that baby and we totally supported her. (Our grandson is over 2 and amazing) anyway not long after she announced her pregnancy we found out our other daughter was self harming which later led to 3 a suicide attempts! All that going on, daughter taken out of school and home schooled and (quickly touches wood) she has been harm free for over 18 months! Then we find out our son is self harming and is now refusing to go to school as his anxiety is so bad… so even more stress!
Ive been diagnosed with very mild copd, am menopausal and have just got over a bad case of shingles and the weight has piled on! I gave up vaping after Copd diagnoses and food has been a comfort and the food noise is real!

tonight I tried talking to my husband about how much I hate my body, how unhappy I am as no clothes fit, been to docs and I’m eligible for mounjaro (not that I’m sure I want it) but wait list is ages so I thought I’d discuss with my husband.

well I wish I hadn’t bothered, he just went off on one how it’s not an easy fix (I know that) just tell your brain to stop thinking of food and go to the gym! It’s that simple!!

I said he has no idea what it’s like to have people ask if your having another baby his reply was … wait for it…. ‘Maybe you are pregnant’ so he clearly thinks I look pregnant!! I’m 45 have an implant and let’s face it, you need to have sex to get pregnant!

im so pissed off and upset at how he just went off, I never said I wanted to pay for mounjaro I just wanted a conversation about how I’d got on at doctors!
even if he had just said, why don’t we sign up to a gym, I’ll eat better and exercise with you and if that doesn’t work we can re visit! Nope I just get an arsehole response!!

if you made it to end of my massive rant… thank you 🥰

OP posts:
vincettenoir · 25/04/2025 23:15

Yeah that does sound a bit annoying. Most blokes do just try to solve problems without really listening.

vincettenoir · 25/04/2025 23:16

Good luck with it all btw.

Megirlan123 · 25/04/2025 23:19

Ah bless you.

honestly though, if you want to do it you carry on! I did and it’s amazing stuff!! Still have to do some exercise and careful eating.

im sorry you’ve had such a rough time. Hopefully things are on the uo for you x

LittleGreenDragons · 25/04/2025 23:21

No advice but good luck with it. Hopefully you can lose weight by losing the husband Grin

Can I ask if GP offered you WLI just because of COPD?

tryingtobesogood · 25/04/2025 23:24

You should do what is right for you, and no he can’t understand how it feels to be in your body.

MJ helps with so much, not just the food noise, losing weight but also leaves you less stressed, free from guilt around food and the effort it takes to endlessly think about what or how to eat.

Id say go for it if it’s what you want.

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