To meet up with other friends on my other friend’s birtdhay since she hasn’t said anything about celebrating her birtdhay?

[Theteddybear2]

Me and my bf haven’t meet up so much with our couple friend who has a toddler and now they asked us if we be availabel next weekend for some game nights and some wine that they have babysitter and would love for us to come there. And honestly its tempting because we haven’t seem them in a while, my good friend also has birtdhay that day but hasn’t said anything about celebrating it yet, my boyfriend said maybe i should ask her in case, but idk, i feel like the person who has birtdhay is the one who asks or invites if they have something planned. I also told him that i don’t feel that we can just sit there and wait for somewhat invitation

If you want to spend the evening with your friends, just do it. I think it would be bad form to wait to see if a better offer comes up.

I think if you and your bf want to spend time with your friends then go for it.
if your other friend now messages and says they would like to do something then explain you’re busy and suggest an alternative day.

@Hadalifeonce yea thats what im thinking to, im not used to ask people if they gonna celebrate, mostly they plan ahead and give like 4-3 weeks in advance. So i would like to think that if she wanted to celebrate we would already know.

@Lostworlds i have tought if she celebrates it that me and her can go and grab some dinner a day at the next week instead. My bf says i should maybe ask but i told him that our other couple friend asked us first, that i don’t see the point in waiting for birthday plans invitation that may not even happen at all.

No, your BF wants to see you and has a rare baby sitter, that is a gift wrapped in gold delivered by a unicorn.

If other friend asks you to go out then you say "Oh I would but we are already out that night, maybe we can meet on X day and do something instead?".

DO NOT blow out your BF (who may be really looking forward to this, I remember life with a toddler and rare babysitters) on a "maybe" from someone who hasnt said a word about their birthday.

Is he one of those people who cant bear the thought of someone being pissed off or disappointed because of him?

Say yes to the games night. You can’t put your life on hold incase other people decide they want to see you last minute.

I think it's fine for you to spend time with your BF and the other friends and have game night on that day, if that works for all of you!

Does the birthday-friend have other friends? Family?
Unless you and the birthday-friend always celebrate each other's birthday on the actual birthday, and it has been a strict tradition for 15 years, I think it's fine for you to make other plans.

You and the birthday-friend can celebrate another day.

At this stage I’d accept the invitation you have, if your friend pipes up this week you just say you have plans and arrange an alternative. If she was having any kind of get together I’m sure you’d have heard by now.

I wouldn't keep a friends birthday free when I was invited to something I wanted to do on the off chance they might ask me to go out. That's not a thing is it.

Maybe your birthday friend is hoping you, or one of her other friends, will organise something for her birthday? Just a thought.

@DilemmaDelilah idk, im used to people inviting and not expecting. I ofc remember their birthdays and widh them the best happy birthday but if they don’t plan anything or i don’t hear anything about it then i don’t take it in as they have any plans.

@B1indEye and u may be right since a lot of people most time remember their friends birthday trough facebook🤣 so if they haven’t been invited then take it as they not planning on anything. And i didn’t want to ask either because suddenly they be like «hmm should i ask people to do something?» and then feels a bit off when my other couple friend asked first