AIBU to ignore bleeding during sex as a one off?

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Looking for opinions pls - I’m 34, don’t have kids, have a new boyfriend I’ve been with a few months with whom I have been having sex 2-3 times a week. He’s pretty well endowed more so than anyone else I’ve ever had sex with (maybe relevant!)

This is my first relationship after a divorce from a ten year relationship where in the latter 5-6 years we had sex very rarely, so this is the most often I’ve been having sex in a long while. It’s been great!

Last Friday we had sex and I started bleeding but I knew my period was due soon so was unconcerned. My period then did come on on Saturday and followed its usual pattern with me finishing it on Wednesday.

We had sex yesterday no issues, then had sex this morning and I started bleeding during. It was in no way painful. It’s obv only been a few hours but I appear to have stopped bleeding.

Do you think this is anything worth getting checked out or nothing to worry about? It’s obviously still fairly recently than I finished my period. In general I have PCOS and irregular periods but I’ve not had issues with bleeding during sex before in my life since initially losing my virginity a million years ago. I’ve never been pregnant.

I was leaning towards rather than making an appointment now, seeing if it happens again and going from there - any thoughts gratefully received!

Get it checked out. Don't take risks. X

As it's so close to your period I wouldn't get checked at this point, but I would make a note of the dates and your period dates in case it happens again.

It's almost certainly because it was close to your period - this happened to me a couple of times when I was younger. It is worth seeing your GP who can take a look at your cervix and do a smear test to be sure, but it's almost certainly absolutely nothing to worry about.

Based on my own experience, it may indeed be relevant that your boyfriend is on the well-endowed side! It happened to me twice - once with someone who was also a bit bigger in that department, and once with someone else when the sex was more, um, vigorous. I had zero pain on either occasion, not during and not afterwards. One time was a couple of days before my period was due, and the other was a couple of days after my period had stopped.

The first time I did get it checked out but there was nothing to worry about and the second time I just ignored it. It's never happened again.

I’ve now actually managed to get a doctors appointment for next Wednesday - has anyone got any reassuring stories of this not being a big deal as I’m having a bit of a health anxiety spiral?!

I get this on and off. it had never happened before I was in my mid thirties. They will want to check you for STI's and look at your cervix and maybe send you for a scan to be sure it's nothing worrying. From the begining they kept saying it was likely just hormonal bleeding which is apparently very common. It's actually quite reassuring that they took it seriously

Well done for getting this checked out.

This happened to me regularly last year - I also have PCOS. GP did absolutely nothing and told me to just come off the contraceptive pill (which has been successfully managing my PCOS symptoms). I pushed and they referred me for gynaecology - 2 YEAR wait.
It resolved itself after a couple months and I ended up cancelling the 2026 gynae appointment! 🤦🏼‍♀️

If it helps- I also worked out the “triggers” FWIW. I would bleed if either we’d not done it for a while, (TMI) if he went too deep! or certain positions also trigger it. It bothered me when it was regular but my partner and I have worked out what causes it so we just avoid those positions!! Sorry if that’s TMI but thought it might help as my situation sounds almost exactly the same as yours.

I had this - caused by precancerous cells on the cervix. Had them removed. All fine and no big deal. Well done for getting checked.

Are your smears up to date? Well done for getting it looked at. Very likely to be nothing to be worried about (eg cervical ectropion) but never ignore post coital bleeding.

Thank you - I’ve always had a smear whenever I’ve been referred for one, but realised yesterday my last was in February 2021 (ie 4 years ago) which freaked me out a bit!

Thank you - this is helpful! Sorry if also TMI, but obviously this is a pretty new relationship so we have sex at least once usually twice every time we see each other, but when it happened the second time (after period ended) he was at the time going very deep (and as I said… he’s very big)! It didn’t hurt though. The first time it was more ‘normal’ sex but that was right before my period so I assumed it was just pre period spotting.

Any thoughts on if I should mention to my boyfriend I’m getting this checked out? We’re obviously only about 4 months in, but I like him a lot and want this to go somewhere. Both times he commented oh there’s a bit of blood but both times fully continued to completion lol. The first time was at my house, but second time was his and left a bit of blood on his white sheets (embarrassing!!!) but I didn’t say anything afterwards.

I had a clean STD test before the start of this relationship and he told me he had too, and I know (unless he’s lied to me) since we’ve been having sex we’ve been exclusive…

I had this years ago and it was caused by cervical erosions which are nothing to worry about although the name sounds worrying 😬It was also commented on sometimes when i had a smear test because it looks like patches of red velvet around the cervix. Definitely tell new bf about it, why wouldn't you?

I had this in my early 30s. They never found a cause for it and it just stopped happening. I’m glad you’re getting it checked out, though.

I had this when I was younger and it was caused by a reaction to the mini pill. It started light and got worse at times actually depending where I was in my cycle and one time was a right mess! I saw a doctor who suggested it could be a rare but possible side effect. I came off the mini pill and it has never happened since x

I had this a couple of years ago and it turned out to be a cervical polyp. Removed very easily and painlessly by the gynaecologist, sent for and it came back benign. Hasn’t happened since