Being unhappy with your job affects your whole life

[SophieH91]

I had a bit of a debate with my other half earlier and would welcome some MN wisdom!

I’m really fed up with work currently, just stagnant and at a dead end. I’ve always been quite career focused, climbed 2/3 roles quite quickly and now earn reasonable money but I’m just not getting the satisfaction any more. I can do the job easily and have been in my current role nearly 3 years. I’ve had a couple of unsuccessful interviews for roles elsewhere in the company which are little to no salary increase but would give a fresh challenge.

I feel like it’s impacting me outside of work now, low motivation, not looking toward to work on a Sunday and feeling a bit down about my prospects as I’m only in my mid 30’s and have a lot of work left to do.

DH says I should just switch off and be thankful I have a fairly well paid job with good perks in terms of work/life balance. I wish I was this way but I can’t help shaking the feeling I am at a dead end.

I’ve debated career changing but it would be a big drop in salary initially to retrain and I’m struggling to get past that in my mind.

YABU - be grateful and get on with it
YANBU - it’s understandable it is impacting non-work life

Financial planning/advice potentially x

Only you will know, but if you are going to jump.......get that house first as my mistake i didnt buy when i had the salary behind me, so im 39 and still renting! I now dont have the salary to get the backing for the house value i would like.

It really does have a knock on effect with life once you lose that salary.
Im no debbie downer, just someone who has recked my 30s trying to fix a non problem, i gained a stressful one for

It was brave of you to make the leap though, and it could have worked out perfectly. Do you think you could have done more due diligence or just a case of back luck?

Only you can really know. Where would you like to be in 5 or 10 years and what do you need to do to get there?

I changed career early 30s as I was stuck in a role that made me truly miserable. I regularly cried at the thought of going in. Took a drop in salary (but I wasn’t on an amazing wage tbh), DH was happy to support me at that time, I got some professional qualifications and 15 years later I’m a senior leader. But even after I switched I definitely still had fed up / bored moments but I put job security and flexibility first and stayed where I am. That paid off in the end for me.

Change!