Ex partner of 4 years told the following story as a reason for not being able to talk with me .
(For context I ended things after some very questionable behavior at Christmas that affected myself and child, he has been very persistent that he wants to get back together, have therapy and work on himself, I was open minded to this).
On the night in question he messaged me at 9pm to say he was off to bed and he'd call me in the morning.
Calls me in the morning, I sense he's a bit distant, distracted and we have a short conversation which he closes off saying he needs to talk to his kids and parents and he's driving to his holiday (all fine with me) I definitely felt he wanted to close the conversation off asap.
Later after reflection, I say I felt quite upset that our conversation was cut short as he was going away for 4 days and out of reception and we wouldn't be able to talk easily.
He gave the following reason.
On the previous evening he was unable to sleep so went for a walk around his village, he had had a few drinks (didn't say how much he's supposed to be giving up) as he returned home there was a police presence on his street and a neighbor 4 doors down from him was upset.
He stopped and asked what was going on and was the lady okay.
He does not know this neighbor.
It was disclosed that she was being stalked by someone who was being threatening to her, police were searching for him and looking after the victim.
My ex said 'he got swept up in the drama of it all' 'was tipsy and enjoying the drama'.
He explained that he spent the hours of 10pm and 12pm trying unsuccessfully to sleep on the woman's sofa.
I found the whole situation bizarre on so many levels and frankly unbelievable.
I couldn't conceive that A. A woman who was frightened out of her wits wouldn't get her husband to come back from work to stay with her (apparently he was doing a night shift at a nuclear plant so couldn't leave)
B. Why she would want a tipsy, man from 4 doors down who she didn't know to sleep on her sofa?
So
AIBU
A. He was kind, selfless and played the good Samaritan and neighbor to stay with this lady until midnight affecting his sleep and I should be thinking what a good person he is.
B. Sleeping on the sofa of a woman that you don't know, who was being taken care of by the police, because you are enjoying the drama is inappropriate I'm right to smell a rat.