Can I ask what the deal is with play dates? Do you ask your (young) children who they want to have over or do you decide based on who you get on with in the playground?
My son seems to have developed a friendship group at school (according to both him and his teachers) but he’s not really been invited to any play dates by these children (except by 1). He tells me that the other children in the group regularly have playdates and sleepovers. Ive invited two of these children to ours and we see one of them from time to time and the other has never invited us back. It’s made me a bit wary about inviting the others but I probably will just have to get on with it. This is particularly because i sense that the parents of my child’s friends are much more stand offish than the other parents in the playground (whose children my son isn’t friends with otherwise I would be keen to extend an invite to them!)
I’m trying to figure out whether it’s a “me” problem ie I need to make more effort with these mums that I just can’t seem to gel with or whether it may be that my son just isn’t that liked by these “friends”? It’s hard to imagine why because he’s a lovely boy. A number of people have commented on this so I don’t say that as biased parent. My other child is never complimented in the same way but that child has regular play dates. Luckily in that case it’s much more straightforward as the parents of that child’s friends are very friendly.
It would be helpful to know how this all works!