To want some time with my mum alone sometimes?

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Is it unreasonable to not always invite my sister to everything that me and my mum do? I'm not talking holidays and big things (which she's always invited to) but a walk or a lunch in a cafe? I'm talking about once every maybe 5 things I.E 4 things together and 1 thing just thr two of us. They do things alone but mainly when I'm at work. Sometimes I just want time with my mum.

Does she live with your mum ? Who is inviting her out. You are going to have to say to her/them that you just meant mum.

No she doesn't live with her. None of us live together

Who is insisting on your sister coming? Is it your Mum or your sister?

You don't say who invites your sister but just invite your mum out and don't say to your Sister.

It's when my sister finds out we've done something without her that she gets pissed off and gives me the cold shoulder, sorry I should've said that in my OP.

I had my Mum’s funeral yesterday, she was only 57.
I’d drop kick both of my brothers in the face to spend one more day alone with my Mum.

Carry on as you are spending time with your Mum alone. She is YOUR Mum.
She’s also your sister’s Mum.
You don’t have to do everything together and you shouldn’t have to explain yourself to each other on why the alone time is special.

Do you spend more one-on-one time with your Mum than your sister does?
The cold shoulder from her might be masking guilt on her part that she doesn’t see her Mum enough?
I saw my Mum every single week with just my little girl, I never even thought to invite my brothers, they both have a mobile phone too 🤷🏼‍♀️

I completely understand your need for alone time with your mum. It’s so important.

I think I’d just accept my sister’s issue with it, stand my ground and continue to make solo arrangements.

It might seem hard but I know from experience, we all need alone-time with a parent. This is why I always encouraged my partner to visit his daughters, (my de-facto step daughters) alone, from time to time. There are some things we need to discuss privately that only a mum can help with.

Maybe your sister is very insecure? Could she be afraid you talk about her?

Oh that's ok don't worry,
Ignore her she's being petty probably some sort of twisted Sibling rivalry on her part, spend time with your mum.

All I wanted was to see my mum without my stepdad always there but it was almost impossible seeing as he was her carer. Pisses me off now she's no longer here