Wrong or Right?

[McSteamyorMcdreamy]

Man 20. Virgin. Impressionable. Just starting his drinking/dating journey.

38 year old woman. 5 children with 4 different Dads (one in prison). Offers it on a plate.

Mother is neighbours and friends with 38yo woman, says they are both adults and can do what they want to.

Man 20 is my nephew.

YABU - Leave him alone. He's an adult. Nothing wrong with it.

YANBU - It's all types of wrong and you are completely within your rights to be disgusted with the woman and SIL.

So bloody furious at the moment!!

I'd advise him to get a STI check. You don't know where else she has been !

Nephew doesn't sound like a great person.

Used this women and didn't protect her or himself.

He'll probably be a father soon!

This gets weirder and weirder. Not only do you know an awful lot about your nephew’s sex life, but your family now has insider information on the longterm contraception methods of the woman he slept with?

@McSteamyorMcdreamy personally I find it a bit bizarre that a 38 year old finds a 20 year old attractive

This is all so weird to me. When I was 20, my private life was private. And my family have no clue when I lost my virginity.

He's a pretty silly guy for not using protection. At 20 years old he should know better,

All you can do is advise him.

@WindingStair I get that. I honestly really do.

I can't explain why this is all family nowledge without being shot down for being stuck up/judgemental/stereotypical.

It's drama created by one individual.

You literally couldn't write it/make it up.

At her age and with so many children, if she wants a long term relationship, it is possible she wants a step father that will help to care for those children and provide economic support for them. If she is working and earning enough to support them fair enough and if the other parents help , age does not matter if not using him , but if she is looking to use him. Either way before he ends in a long term relationship with a woman with 5 kids, he probably should try to socialise more and see more. Make more friends. I mean how does he know what is best for him without any experience, without socialising out there, without going out with other women , without going out on dates etc. It isn't even just about not having a previous sexual relationship but about being around other people so he can make friends and maybe find someone to go out that way. Is he working. He needs to be around more people and work may help or study or even volunteering, etc. He needs his own life and friends group to find out what is out there for him. Maybe this lady is good for him after all but surely he should try to meet other ladies . It is creepy that the first woman for him is a neighbour that her mom's friend and who is also almost double his age and with 5 kids. The woman can see a young, inexperience man that finds difficult and fearful to socialise with others, and that she can most likely mould him to whatever she needs and that will not challenge her.