Is DW an alcoholic?

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She drinks a bottle of wine to herself 3 times a week?
Yabu: no she's not
Yanbu: yes she is

Really!!!😙🤮

She is not an alcoholic in my opinion. 3 doesn't drink for 4 days of the week is pretty reasonable.

Why does she finish the bottle on the days she does drink/ that is probably more of an issue.

No and yes. No in that unless she needs to drink to get through life then she isn't. Yes in that's a lot of wine. I drink more than that most weeks, but I don't need a drink. I'm on call this week so haven't had a drink since Wednesday last week....I could have had one on Thursday but I didn't want one.

have you talked to her about it?

I can’t imagine that three bottles of wine each week is average. I doubt if there is that much wine in the country.

If you are concerned with the amount your wife is drinking then you need to discuss it with her rather than asking the internet to give you the authority to label her drinking so you can use it to shame her.

If she does not think it's a problem and does not want to moderate then you are within your rights to decide it's a deal breaker.

It’s more than some people and less than others.

Unless it’s causing actual issues I’d live and let live. Some weeks I could easily do that that some week I might not drink at all. Depends on socials and weather, eating out stuff like that.

The question is does she NEED the drink or is it just nice to have. Does she become aggressive? Is she a messy / sloppy drunk if in fact it gets her drunk.

I would say no, if she is not drinking the other 4 days. On a bank holiday I could drink a bottle Fri, Sat Sun or when on holiday but I don't have to have it I just enjoy drinking it.

Also you need to ask yourself if you’d feel differently if it was a different drink. If every night your mate had two beers, or if someone had a vodka and coke every night. Would that feel as bad? Or worse?

Yes it can be a lot but so is stuffing your face with an entire pizza a day or smoking 20 fags.

It’s above the “recommended” weekly limit but then you could argue that no level of alcohol is good for you. I’d say it’s more relevant if her drinking is problematic or not. I think it’s worth saying that many problem drinkers can go days or weeks without a drink before they binge again so just because she abstains for four days a week doesn’t mean it’s all ok.