Worried about upcoming funeral

[Rosie8880]

my aunt has just died in her 80s. She’s my dads sister. A few years ago my dads siblings all fell out because of the treatment of his brother - long story shant go into here. My dad still talks to one sister but not the other. It’s a large family with many many cousins, second, third etc cousins… I am worried as my dad is very very ill, I’m unsure if he will make it to the funeral. If he does he just won’t talk to his other sister or her husband. Due to this rift my cousins on one siblings side and others just don’t talk so much. We try to but there is a rift. I do want to go to the funeral but am worried about the toll it may take on my father - emotionally, physically - it may trigger something serious (he has heart issues). AIBU to feel maybe my dad should not go? I just don’t know what the best decision is here.

ETA: I'm sorry for your loss. And that this is obviously troubling you given your dad's health.

Presumably your dad still has the capacity to make his own decisions. In which case he decides what he wants to do. It's his sister. He could go to just the funeral and avoid the wake if he would prefer. It's entirely up to him.

@Rosie8880 it has to be up to your Dad. Grieving is very personal and for some funerals can be very important.

It is highly unlikely that anyone would create a problem during the service out of respect. You can wait separately to one side away and then sit at the back.