To move back to home town

[soupsong]

Off the back of another thread I’ve been doing some serious thinking.

I very reluctantly moved away from my hometown 30 years ago when I met ExH. I have never considered where I now live as “home”; even less so now I’m divorced.

DC are 17 and 20 (eldest at university, youngest Year 12); I work for my local council, remotely 4 days a week. In theory I could make that work if I accepted I would need to travel back to my office once a week.

Currently renting but looking for somewhere to buy, I am yet again feeling the pull back to my hometown. I have what I cosider to be my closest friends there and some family.

AIBU or insane to consider moving back? I don’t think it would be well received by DC and maybe I’m just looking at it through rose tinted glasses of nostalgia. That being said everything in me yearns to be back there and I think it’s one of the reasons I still haven’t committed to buying a house here 😔

Have you been back recently? If not, go for a weekend and see if it’s as good as you remember.

sometimes, home calls us home. Sounds as though you are hearing the call.

Yes I go back about 3 times a year. My biggest fear is what DC would think

Well, the eldest is at uni, so unless they still live at home, they don’t live in.

Could you say to them, especially the youngest that you want to move back next year when they have finished school? It might take a year to find and buy a house anyway. Also ask them what they feel about it. They might surprise you. Meanwhile, take then a visit and show them how lovely it is.

Sometimes you have to do what’s right for you, talk them through your reasons, and if you could commute back one day a week, it’s not too far.

Good luck.