AIBU? Crazy step DM.

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My step DM lives abroad with my DF, DF in great health, DM has heart failure, COPD, rheumatoid arthritis, vascular issues and has had 4 heart attacks in the last 2 years (amongst other issues) Obviously she is on lots of medication. She has been in my life for many years and I love her, although we see eye to eye on very little.

DM believes in all sorts that I don't (angels rule the world, she time travels regularly, speaks to the dead etc)

She sometimes asks me for medical advice (registered nurse) and I guide her best I can, but she largely ignores or argues with whatever I say, especially if it involves seeing a doctor who might not treat her with 'woo'.

DM has took a turn for the worse, constant breathlessness, paramedics attending several times, couple of courses of antibiotics. She has turned round and said she is like this because of all the 'pharma' she takes, she has booked in with a naturopathic doctor who has charged her £500 for blood tests and she informs me she is coming off absolutely all her medication now.

This is more of a cathartic rant, but AIBU to just say 'best of luck'?

When all said and done, you can only impart your advice, you can't make her take the advice, she's a grown adult, and unless she is deemed mentally incapable of making her own decisions, she makes her own decisions.

Aside from telling her that her decision, both you (and DF) are very sorry she has decided to go with that course of action, because of its potential consequences of her dying as a result. There's not a lot you can do.

Maybe report the "practitioner" , threaten them with legal ramifications, report them to anywhere you can think of..

You can lead a horse to water ...

If she lives abroad, it may all be perfectly above board. Homeopathy is quite the thing in Germany.

TBH it doesn’t sound like she’ll be around for much longer.

Think of her latest plan as “kill or cure” and leave her to it.

Exactly this, if it was the UK it would be totally different. He is amazingly an 'actual' (private) doctor in his country just he doesn't prescribe any kind of pharmaceutical medication, aims to take patients off all previously prescribed medications, prescribes ridiculously limited diets, advises removal of electronics from the house etc.

All very 'Apple Cider Vinegar'!

Darwin’s Law

Sadly, you can't get through to someone who holds these kind of beliefs in my experience. Tell her she should watch Apple Cider Vinegar! And tell her that if she stops all her medication she will likely die soon. That's all you can do 😕 does DF go along with her or will he challenge her?

I think he has just reached his limit and very much nods and smiles. He has told her that anything the naturopathic doctor suggests she stops taking is then agreed with her GP, but she isn't taking that on board. In his words 'she believes angels rule the world, so she isn't going to listen to sense' 🙄

How frustrating for him 😕 but you're right, there's nothing anyone can do to change her mind really is there? 😔

This reminds me of a case I read about recently where the alternative therapist was found guilty of manslaughter -

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c51yvxxd3n8o.amp