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To ask about ducks in a row?

26 replies

Happywithamillion · 22/04/2025 12:34

To get your ducks in a row feels like the most frequent advice on relationship breakdown threads.

I live near canal and walk all its length daily. I have seen swan families swim in a very nice line. But ducks - it’s complete chaos. They hang out in big groups, sometimes breaking into couples with occasional threesome :-) They never form a row.

Should we be saying “get your swans in a row”?

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Gundogday · 22/04/2025 13:21

Don’t a hundred percent agree with you. When you see a family of ducks swimming, they’re often in a row.

Newt13 · 22/04/2025 13:22

I always assumed it originated from a fairground game.

MistressoftheDarkSide · 22/04/2025 13:27

I prefer to have all my squirrels in a circle, armed, in the manner of circling the wagons x Ducks are just too erratic at this time of year for the reasons stated above. Swans can allegedly break arms of course, but in the event of a tragedy they would leave behind a pining mate, plus the King would be pissed off.

So squirrels are definitely my strategy of choice, and they'll do anything for nuts.

Octavia64 · 22/04/2025 13:56

Swans are never in a row.

they circle each other with their wings up being territorial and aggressive.

unless you leave cake on the side of the river in which case they’ll all be there trying to eat it.

IsThisLifeNow · 22/04/2025 13:58

I like to consider circlng the wagons over ducks in a row, its more being on the offensive and ready for attack

PurpleNebula84 · 22/04/2025 15:00

Newt13 · 22/04/2025 13:22

I always assumed it originated from a fairground game.

This is what I always thought too

RaindropBloom · 22/04/2025 15:32

@Newt13 that's what I've always thought 🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆🦆

Newt13 · 22/04/2025 16:36

Although I have to say that I prefer the squirrel option 😁

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 22/04/2025 16:37

I've always pictured those flying duck ceramics on people's walls - like in Coronation Street.

Pentimenti · 22/04/2025 16:39

I always imagine them as ceramic ducks.

To ask about ducks in a row?
Pentimenti · 22/04/2025 16:40

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 22/04/2025 16:37

I've always pictured those flying duck ceramics on people's walls - like in Coronation Street.

Yes, exactly!

Tryingtokeepgoing · 22/04/2025 16:43

IsThisLifeNow · 22/04/2025 13:58

I like to consider circlng the wagons over ducks in a row, its more being on the offensive and ready for attack

That’s a good idea, but let’s take it off-line and do a deep dive so we can circle back and revert with a helicopter view, making sure we’ve got all the low-hanging fruit first ☺️

NetballHoop · 22/04/2025 16:49

As a fan of penguins, they're my go to bird for getting in a row. The can double up as bollards too.

D0g · 22/04/2025 16:51

Swans are actually terrifying so get ya swans in a row somehow sounds more ominous and less japes than duck sorting. So I would use each depending on who I am talking to…

ZaZathecat · 22/04/2025 17:04

I assumed the fairground game too

Clevs · 22/04/2025 17:17

Happywithamillion · 22/04/2025 12:34

To get your ducks in a row feels like the most frequent advice on relationship breakdown threads.

I live near canal and walk all its length daily. I have seen swan families swim in a very nice line. But ducks - it’s complete chaos. They hang out in big groups, sometimes breaking into couples with occasional threesome :-) They never form a row.

Should we be saying “get your swans in a row”?

Maybe that’s the point. If the ducks are looking chaotic maybe that represents the bad relationship and “getting them in a row” is a way of saying to get things sorted out.

Happywithamillion · 22/04/2025 17:47

Clevs · 22/04/2025 17:17

Maybe that’s the point. If the ducks are looking chaotic maybe that represents the bad relationship and “getting them in a row” is a way of saying to get things sorted out.

That’s deep 🤣

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RaindropBloom · 22/04/2025 18:05

@Clevs wins the thread 👏 🥳🏆

GordonLaChance · 22/04/2025 20:27

I had to swerve to avoid a row of ducks on the A14 last week! I honestly have no idea what mother duck was thinking leading her 5 little ducklings across such a busy dual carriageway!

Perhaps she finally did have her ducks in a row and left the bastard..

Letstheriveranswer · 22/04/2025 20:42

MistressoftheDarkSide · 22/04/2025 13:27

I prefer to have all my squirrels in a circle, armed, in the manner of circling the wagons x Ducks are just too erratic at this time of year for the reasons stated above. Swans can allegedly break arms of course, but in the event of a tragedy they would leave behind a pining mate, plus the King would be pissed off.

So squirrels are definitely my strategy of choice, and they'll do anything for nuts.

Excellent advice. Either that, or have a gaggle of geese outside the door, ready and beakily armed!

Gundogday · 22/04/2025 21:57

NetballHoop · 22/04/2025 16:49

As a fan of penguins, they're my go to bird for getting in a row. The can double up as bollards too.

Made me smile.

Gundogday · 22/04/2025 21:58

GordonLaChance · 22/04/2025 20:27

I had to swerve to avoid a row of ducks on the A14 last week! I honestly have no idea what mother duck was thinking leading her 5 little ducklings across such a busy dual carriageway!

Perhaps she finally did have her ducks in a row and left the bastard..

Also made me smile.

katkintreats · 22/04/2025 22:01

Canada geese always seem well organised.

abracadabra1980 · 22/04/2025 22:02

I've never understood the link between the saying about ducks and preparing for a divorce... I can't see the relevance?

Gundogday · 23/04/2025 21:44

abracadabra1980 · 22/04/2025 22:02

I've never understood the link between the saying about ducks and preparing for a divorce... I can't see the relevance?

Getting ducks in your row doesn’t necessarily refer to divorce. It just means getting organised, knowing where things stands and not having any loose ends. So in the case of divorce, it’s making sure you know how much money there is in all the accounts, what accounts there are, pensions etc, and where you stand with the mortgage.