Friends new partner and non-molestation order

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My dear friend, who has been unlucky in love, has finally met someone who seems great and very into her. They’re moving full speed ahead with their relationship and I have been super happy for her. Her new DP is separated and sees his DC regularly but she revealed that the ex wife has a non- molestation order against him. I explained that this is a massive red flag and of course his story is the exact wife made it all up to get him out the house because she had a new partners.

i am very concerned but unfortunately my friend is in love and believes every word he says. I am not saying he is lying but if she had a non-molestation order on him surely she would of had to have some ground for it and you can’t just get them easily?

any advice on what I can do? He met her kids at the weekend and I just don’t think she’s thinking straight.

Yeah that’s a red flag parade right there 🚩

I don't think your friend is so much unlucky in love as just plain daft. This is a huge red flag. She is being very irresponsible by introducing him to her children.

Unfortunately they'll all pay the price further down the line.

I bet he told her his ex is a crazy woman. He's lovebombing her from the sounds of it, and he will more than likely do to her whatever earned him the non mol from his ex. She needs to do a Clare's Law check on him. https://clares-law.com/ If he's as wonderful as she thinks he is, there's nothing for her to worry about, is there?

What does 'moving full speed ahead with their relationship" mean? Because even a normal, emotionally healthy relationshipp shoudln't be moving at speed if there are children involved? He just met her kids - when did she get together with him?

I have no idea how easy it is to get a Non Mol order but yes, that does ring alarm bells for me.

She is not 'unlucky in love' she is making bad choices and deliberately ignoring red flags it seems, she has a brain sadly she is not using it as it appears desperate for any attention thrown at her, yes harsh but is it untrue?

It can't be wrapped up in pretty paper with a red bow, it is what it is and maybe she may read this thread or be like millions of other women and just ignore it again and again

My friend has a non mol order against her ex and I can confirm they do not give them out easily and your friend really needs to look at the huge red flag waving at her! He ex will tell everyone that she is a crazy ex and it was not his fault, he is also unbelievable charming until he reveals his true colours.
I agree with the above as a minimum try to get her a Clare”s law.
Part of me wants to say if she really won’t listen then just lay low, hold your comments and make sure that he doesn’t have anything that he can use to try and cut you out of her life, she is going to need you.

Put in for a Claires Law on him

Claire law but even without that I’d run in the opposite direction

Thanks - anyone know if I can do a Clare’s law or whether she needs to do it?

you can put in for one on her behalf. The police will only contact her IF there is something which is to be noted. Go for it