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Would you /do you get child maintenance in this circumstance ?

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Childmaintenanceq1 · 21/04/2025 19:23

50:50 custody
parent A - earns 50k
parent B - earns 69k

would there be child maintenance or no? Anyone similar? Posting here for traffic.

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Childmaintenanceq1 · 21/04/2025 21:03

Thank you.

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HidingFromDD · 21/04/2025 21:33

I was in a similar position (although more like 35/60). We used cms calculator to work out what would be due if each parent had children 100% and then the higher earner paid half the difference to the lower earner. Lower earner also got child benefit. That felt fair to us both. Reviewed it every pay rise.

cadburyegg · 21/04/2025 21:41

Is it truly 50/50? Is everything truly split this way?

Things like winter coats, shoes, uniform and stuff that goes between houses - are expenses genuinely 50/50?

Who takes children to dentist, doctors, opticians, hospital, hairdresser appointments? What about sick days, is it always the parent who has the child that day that has to take the day off? It may well be genuinely 50/50, but if it’s the case that the lower earning parent does the majority of these then I’d argue there could be a case for maintenance.

Rainbowqueeen · 21/04/2025 21:45

I’d say not necessarily maintenance but I’d expect the higher earner to pay for all school uniform and clubs

mindutopia · 21/04/2025 21:50

If the lower earner was paying for all or most of the school trips, lunches, holiday childcare, clothes, shoes, hobbies, classes and activities, I would expect the higher earner to reimburse for those costs proportionately to income. Dh and I pay jointly for dc’s costs proportionate to our incomes. It wouldn’t suddenly be fair for me to have to pay them all on my own just because we were to divorce. There are ways to do this that don’t necessarily involve paying “maintenance” though.

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