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That saying "Happy Easter" is out of place?

268 replies

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 09:47

We're a Jewish family, and only celebrate Xmas in a secular / Santa way. We celebrate all other main Jewish holidays at home and our friends know this, yet they sent a message of happy Easter. Isn't this out of place? (They even knew we just had a Passover Seder!)

OP posts:
Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:50

BlondiePortz · 21/04/2025 10:10

I presume you and your family willing work on the holidays days for normal pay?

Didn't take long for the antisemitism to surface 👀

PurpleChrayn · 21/04/2025 11:51

I’m Jewish too, and accepted Easter Greetings in the spirit they were meant.

Why wouldn’t you?

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:52

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Message deleted by MNHQ. Here's a link to our Talk Guidelines.

Lovely bit of antisemitism there - would you like to send all Jews to a place far away?

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:52

I would take it to mean that they are happy on and with their festival and they are extending happiness to you and would wish you blessed. I work part time overseas in a very mixed place and everyone wishes everyone happy everything. Please don't be so fearful about feeling erased or redefined. Wish them all your festivals back maybe?

Christian God probably likes dogs so the attempted insult misfired.

PurpleChrayn · 21/04/2025 11:52

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This made me laugh out loud!

Thanks, I guess 😆

MzHz · 21/04/2025 11:53

I’ve heard it all now.

with all the violence and hatred in the world, someone is sending you good wishes and you get the hump?

take this in the spirit in which it’s meant.

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:53

Some antisemites are sailing awfully close to the wind on this thread.

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 11:54

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:52

I would take it to mean that they are happy on and with their festival and they are extending happiness to you and would wish you blessed. I work part time overseas in a very mixed place and everyone wishes everyone happy everything. Please don't be so fearful about feeling erased or redefined. Wish them all your festivals back maybe?

Christian God probably likes dogs so the attempted insult misfired.

I didn't mean it as an insult, just like it was as meaningful to my dog as it was to me! I mean we both get to spend some extra time off cuddling!

OP posts:
Hobnobswantshernameback · 21/04/2025 11:54

What did you want from this thread OP?

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:54

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:52

I would take it to mean that they are happy on and with their festival and they are extending happiness to you and would wish you blessed. I work part time overseas in a very mixed place and everyone wishes everyone happy everything. Please don't be so fearful about feeling erased or redefined. Wish them all your festivals back maybe?

Christian God probably likes dogs so the attempted insult misfired.

I love how you are telling Jews not to be so oversensitive!

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:55

I actually find bank holiday weekend far more offensive as it's not bank holiday globally and nor am I usually on holiday. It's null. It's joyless. It's tied to Mammon worship and capitalism.

Wish me all the things. Please. Divine and sweet.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:56

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:54

I love how you are telling Jews not to be so oversensitive!

Why thank you! Weaponised fear is a big problem nowadays.

thirdfiddle · 21/04/2025 11:56

We're a multicultural society. People tend to wish each other happy-whatever if anyone involved in the conversation is celebrating whatever it is. And sometimes when they're not.

YABU unless you're super devout and all your friends are aware you are unhappy about mention of other people's religious festivals.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:56

Ethicaldebacle · 21/04/2025 11:54

I didn't mean it as an insult, just like it was as meaningful to my dog as it was to me! I mean we both get to spend some extra time off cuddling!

Glad to hear it and now also really want dog pic please.

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 11:57

Is Easter a really bad thing, insulting thing for the Jewish faith? I don't know if it is or not as I'm not Jewish, but I would assume they are just being nice/polite/friendly and you are massively over thinking it.

If a Jewish person wished me happy Hannukah I'd say thank you and just think they were being nice/spreading a bit of joy and I'd take in the manner it was intended.

KIlliePieMyOhMy · 21/04/2025 11:57

Wow, tough crowd.

LucyMonth · 21/04/2025 11:58

I can promise you OP that most people who are full to the gills today with Easter chocolate are not practising Christians!

Easter is as non secular as Christmas IMO. For most people it’s a way of celebrating Spring and eating chocolate. Just like Christmas marks winter for many people.

VickyEadieofThigh · 21/04/2025 11:59

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:53

Some antisemites are sailing awfully close to the wind on this thread.

Examples?

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 11:59

Slawbans · 21/04/2025 11:32

You can take it in the spirit it was intended - so joyful, inclusive, friendly - or you can choose to take offence. The choice is entirely yours.
They probably don’t know what ( if any ) greeting or wish would be appropriate at Passover. I wouldn’t either.

Chag sameach
Learn the greetings
There's no reason not to
Now this is antisemitic not to
Celebrate everything, life should be good!!!

Unitarily · 21/04/2025 12:00

It’s a bit awkward. Our corner shop is either muslim or Hindi owned. I think Muslim but not going to ask.

I was in there and thought should I say happy Easter. Decided against it but then thought is that rude?! It’s a minefield.

So YABU to be offended. People are put in impossible situations with this.

OhWhistle · 21/04/2025 12:01

JasmineAllen · 21/04/2025 11:57

Is Easter a really bad thing, insulting thing for the Jewish faith? I don't know if it is or not as I'm not Jewish, but I would assume they are just being nice/polite/friendly and you are massively over thinking it.

If a Jewish person wished me happy Hannukah I'd say thank you and just think they were being nice/spreading a bit of joy and I'd take in the manner it was intended.

Christian persecution has been terrible...consider the explusion of Jews from England in 1290 just for starters at home. If you're in the UK. We haven't reckoned with that.

People generally have been terrible to each other so becoming informed but ALSO celebrating is what I hope to do.

Pollyanna87 · 21/04/2025 12:02

Smallmercies · 21/04/2025 11:52

Lovely bit of antisemitism there - would you like to send all Jews to a place far away?

I’m a Jew.

historyismything82 · 21/04/2025 12:02

I don't get worked up about any religion celebrating events, I think it's kind of them to send you Easter wishes.

P.S Happy Easter

blubberyboo · 21/04/2025 12:03

Many people wouldn't know the ins and outs of any religion. As an atheist I would not have a clue about any Jewish festivals or their meaning or timing and very limited about Christianity.
At the start of the bank holiday weekend I might wish someone a happy Easter but only:

  1. With the intention of wishing them an enjoyable long weekend.
  2. To cover my arse in case they are religious christians and it might mean something deeper to them.

If they turned out to be another religion (I likely wouldnt know) I would assume they took it in the spirit of number 1.

Hwi · 21/04/2025 12:03

Sorry, just enquiries - Smozzleberry comments got deleted? Why? I was about to like the comment about the message not being offensive and it says 'deleted'???? Have the moderators gone mad? It was literally 'I am Orthodox Jewish. This is a Christian country, so clearly message is spreading joy and not offensive' and now it is deleted? Seriously?

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