To not like DH carrying the children on his shoulders?

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I’m not overly fussed about safety but I hate it. All it takes is one trip and it could be nasty. But the main problem is that our DS now won’t walk at all when we’re out as a family, just whinges to go on Dhs shoulders. Then the younger one starts. He obviously can’t carry them both so there’s whingeing and crying and arguing. I’m desperate just for a blanket ‘no shoulders’ rule but I’m being ignored. AIBU?

This is one of my fondest memories of childhood :(

Can’t you carry the younger one?

You honestly can’t live your life like this OP, you’ll go mad!

Trust your DH, how often does he fall over normally? Do a little genuine risk assessment and chill!

Would you be happier if they were on his back? Less distance to fall. Maybe set a timer and they each get 5 mins. Put the child not on the back in charge of the stopwatch.

Last year I would have said YABU, but now, totally different ball game. My DW (samesexcouple) always carried our DS on her shoulders and I hated it but let it go ahead. Then one day my DS tried to move a certain way and my DW was moving another way and he fell the full height and smashed his mouth against a marble floor and we found ourself in A&E 😢 I know the chances of this happening are low but it was brutal.
And agreed with the whinging and crying too, he would refuse to walk and she always gave in. After the fall I put a compete stop to it and he's finally stopped asking.
For me it's not worth it. Especially with 2 DC!

I still remember the fun of being on my Dad's shoulders over 45 years ago. Now he is 80 and I would squash him 😂
To stop the whining you tell them before they go I. The walk they will get a go an daddy's shoulders if they are good for 5 whole minutes but only once.. Give them a 2 minute and 1 minute warning and then have a running race or something fun straight away. If they go on aboit another go remind them about the one turn thing.
It won't last long and they will be too big 😭

I’m not remotely overly anxious, the opposite usually. It’s mostly the whingeing I can’t cope with!

It’s fine, it’s normal, it’s fun. But you do have to deal with the whining. Kids take turns but whoever whines doesn’t get a turn.

If you spend your life focusing too much on all the things that could go wrong you would never do anything or go anywhere.

I remember being carried on Dad's shoulders and loved it! My DH carried our boys this way too ☺️ if it's the whingeing that's the problem then deal with the whingeing - you both get a turn but any whingeing means you won't get your turn. Warn them in advance and then stick to it. Learn to ignore a lot of whingeing because the more attention you give it, they more they'll do it.