For thinking my friend should take the bus instead of expecting my bf to always pick her up when going the same place?

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i understand that people don’t always wanna take the bus if it means they are getting there in like 30-40 min, but its when they have this expectetion of carpooling everytime just because they don’t have the car license ( wich i dont have myself) but since i live with my boyfriend and we sometimes do stuff with my friends and get invited to their home, we ofc drive. But my friend often ask us wich clock we be there and if theres any case we drive pass here or there, wich i know its just a hint so we can pick her up. Same thing when heading home. I feel like she kinda relying on us to get to same places we are heading to. Even if she has got there fine by taking 1-2 or three busses before i was in a relationship. Before i was in a relationship she rarely asked to go togheter and i just meet her at the place with our other friends. But now she rather sit with us because my boyfriend drives. I know people may say money dosn’t matter but she would have to pay and had to pay for taking the bus anyways if heading same place.

Be firm. Tell her it's going out of your way. If not tell her "if you get to mine for X time we can take you". People like this annoy me. I had it 15 years ago when I first passed my driving test. I declined everyone asking for lifts.

I mean I don't think she should expect lifts all the time, but you and your partner can say no. YABU for your bf not saying no.
but you have no license your boyfriend has to drive you everywhere so I guess he's used to it. It's more up to your boyfriend than you as he's the one driving everyone about which can become tiresome.

Depends really - if you are passing her house then you could but if she's expecting you to drive out of your way then that it unreasonable.
As pp says she could make her way to yours.

Have you asked for petrol money?

@DeltaFlyer wich we not since she lives further but takes the bus to the town where we once in a while drive pass, not directly into the town but, no we haven’t

@ayonoosh even tough she asks me since its me who she have in socials. One time we didn’t because we where close to the meeting area, so i told him there was no need for him to drive all way back just because she wants to have a lift.

no we haven't

It's his car and his licence so there's no we about it. It's up to him and nothing to do with you.

So if she asks you tell her to ask him.

Just don't take her up on the hints if you don't want to take her. Ignore the texts/say no sorry, you are going somewhere first/after so can't.

If you don't mind taking her but it's out of your way-say if you can get to mine for x o'clock, you can have a lift and same back again.

@Omgggggreally i don’t drive but i can complitley understand the annoyingness of it. Having to drive 10 more minutes or waiting for them because the buss to the town is late. Like she kinda expects to just sit with us because i have a boyfriend who drives, ups didn’t mean to quote

Like she kinda expects to just sit with us because i have a boyfriend who drives

Why don't you say no then?

@Shinyandnew1 yea i def dont want her to become used to that. Because if we leave earlier and want to grab some food or go to the stores ect, then its kinda annoying having to drive someone else home and drag my friend with us before going to the meeting spot. So i think maybe if i feel like shes gonna ask to maybe just pretend like i didn’t have time to open it. Like someone mentioned me that she may think she also has some kind of boyfriend-privileges lol by my boyfriend picking her up aswell