Stood up by LTB

[itwasallbriliant]

Am I being unreasonable?
BF said he’d drive down Good Friday evening & spend Easter with me after I finished work ..( he’s been off work ) .
when in the afternoon I asked if he was still coming later he replies that it might be very late in the evening or very early the next morning…to which I replied that I’ve said before not to make plans with me he can’t keep ( this is the third occasion now in all the time we’ve been together ) .
He didn’t bother seeing me Friday night or Saturday morning.

Back story after 1 year of dating he moved away . Made our relationship longish distance .. always said he’d never mind the drive ( sometimes 3 hours with traffic )
i was only ever invited to his new residence once but still haven’t been .. he’s said he’d prefer to come to mine .
so for a few months now when we’ve had the same time off together he hasn’t bothered making the effort like he used to for us to get some quality time together . Turns up late at night with his washing .Takes me out to eat the next day & maybe the day after then thats it .
I think he’s finding the journey too much .. he says he isn’t when I’ve checked with him .
mixed messages ..as he’s booked us a holiday ( which can easily be cancelled ) in a few weeks time .. feel like I’m now choking on the breadcrumbs .. am I being harsh by asking for some boundaries regarding my time ? If he’s not going to show up when he says it stops me from having other plans . We get on great when together but this flakey pastry lark isn’t suiting me .

Bin him.

I think you know the answer really, don't you and its not about stating boundaries. You describe his efforts as breadcrumbs and that's exactly what he's giving you.

Long distance requires more effort and he's making very little. It sounds like things have fizzled out on his side since the move or he's found another option but wants to keep you warm until he's certain - both are fairly common.

You deserve more, OP. He should want to see you and this doesn't appear to be the case. No amount of pulling him up is going to change that,tak charge and call time.

The other LTB.

Why on earth are you still chasing and waiting for him? Get on with your life and bin him. You’re his standby and cleaning lady. Stop waiting around hoping for his pitiful crumbs.

Afraid another vote for dumping him while you still have some semblance of dignity OP. I certainly wouldn't be doing washing for a man who treated me like this.

I agree, he simply doesn't seem to value your relationship as you do.

I'd take it a little further and suggest he may have an interest in someone else where he's now living.

Relationships should add to your life. He's detracting. Bin him.